i just need mental reassurance and positivity

Idk who your family member is or if they’re married, but you could say what a great idea! Maybe you could do that at your wedding! Or your son/daughter’s wedding! When I’m frustrated I just say let’s do it at my brother’s wedding lol also just change the subject when they ask about the wedding

That’s just what people do, sadly. Your wedding becomes “our” wedding and everyone wants a piece of it like your wedding cake. Be kind but firm and just remember they don’t mean any harm. People get weird about weddings, especially if it’s not how they would plan it.

Here’s some positivity! If that doesn’t make you smile then more wine, I say!

I would stop talking wedding with that relative. If they don’t know anything they can’t comment on it.
As for positive, you’re planning your wedding! And we’re all here to hear all about it!

Ugh, those types of relatives just take all the fun out of wedding planning! You're doing great, no matter what they say, and it will be a lovely wedding

Just because someone is family, does not entitle nor allow them to belittle or neg you. I dont agree with People who say "that's still your mom... that's still your brother"

I believe it's ok to set boundaries and speak up for yourself. Respectfully of course.

This is one of the most wonderful times in your life and you should be able to say so... and expect those that support and love you to enhance that... no matter what

Stop talking to that relative about wedding details! If they ask you, say they’ll have to wait and see the day of the wedding or change the subject. Or take the more direct approach and tell them straight up that their negative comments are upsetting to you and you’re no longer going to discuss details with them.

I’m so sorry that’s happening! Please don’t let them spoil your day. Ignore them if you can, don’t give them details about the wedding, and if possible and if you don’t want to, don’t invite them.

I hope this makes you smile: we may have figured out what I’m walking down the aisle to! My fiancé proposed at sunrise on Lake Michigan, and my favorite Disney movie is the Lion King. Since Mufasa says “Everything the light touches is our kingdom,” my fiancé said “Of all the things the light touches, I love you the most. Now I have something to ask you.” And got down on one knee! The other day I found a string quartet on YouTube playing Can You Feel the Love Tonight from the movie. It’s beautiful and he wants me to walk down the aisle to that to make it more special and personal for us.

And now for a joke.
How does Moses make his coffee? Hebrews it 😎

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That relative sounds like a negative Nelly, Petty Patty, or Jealous Jan (Marcia, Marcia, Marcia!!!).