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Just Said Yes September 2019

i just called it off...

Kimberly, on May 17, 2019 at 9:12 PM Posted in Planning 0 10

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So, i need someone other than family and friends to tell me if im out of line or not!??....
So my parents have offered to assist in the wedding and said on multiple occasions...this is your wedding...do what you want. With that being said, FH and I wanted a 40person intimate ceremony and dinner. We have been together for about 12yrs, so a small ceremony was perfect for us. Now....it has become more than doubled, and the venue we picked is no longer good enough for my parents. My FH and I are now having to discuss final details with my parents to see if "they" like it.
Am i being a brat?

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Latest activity by RASHEEDA, on May 18, 2019 at 8:26 PM

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Abby · on May 17, 2019 at 9:19 PM
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I think if you don't want to have to consult your parents on decisions, then you should find a way to throw the wedding yourself without them paying for anything. That's unfortunately what happens when someone else pays for the wedding. They throw in conditions.
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Just Said Yes September 2019
Kimberly · on May 17, 2019 at 10:02 PM
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I actually had every intention on fully paying for everything, as FH and i have been saving for the past 5years, i was trying to be considerate of the very picky eaters and animal owners in the fam. But it has turned on me and has now made it about them rather than what we wanted.
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Wendy · on May 17, 2019 at 10:12 PM
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I agree with Abby!! If you can afford it then tell your parents thanks but no thanks and do what you want... like they said it’s your wedding!! Stand your ground and learn to say no..
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Caytlyn · on May 17, 2019 at 10:18 PM
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Stop asking others for their opinion on your wedding, then you won’t have to worry about it.
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Emly · on May 17, 2019 at 10:43 PM
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You're the only one who knows what's best for you!! So do exactly that! ❤
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Hermione · on May 18, 2019 at 12:05 AM
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I think your solution is pay for everything. Then you take back executive control for you and fh. Then you get what you want and can say "No, it's my wedding, money, and my bills."
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Amanda · on May 18, 2019 at 12:23 AM
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Agreed here, plus then they can save their money and there's less stress for you! You cant please everyone..
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Simone · on May 18, 2019 at 12:33 AM
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I don't understand why parents think just because they're paying it means they get to make the decisions. It's supposed to be a gift. But, yeah, you're not being a brat. Pay for your own wedding if you want autonomy. Shouldn't have to be that way, though. smh
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Rachael · on May 18, 2019 at 12:50 PM
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Although they are paying for some of it, they said at the start that it was about you... personally I feel like that set the tone for how things should have gone, as telling someone one thing and then doing something else is terribly confusing... I'd say to sit and talk to them about this though, they may not realize how they've made this confusing and frustrating for you... if they're helping pay its ok for them to want certain things, but it is still your wedding day and should still be something along the lines of what you would want
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RASHEEDA · on May 18, 2019 at 8:26 PM
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This day is about yall not them . if i was you i would talk to my fiance and plan just us two and then send out invites for what we want to have not them or sit down with my parents and tell them what we want not them this day is for us not everyone else. Just tell them nicely
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