We are not inviting children to our wedding (with the exception of kids in the wedding party - ring bearers and flower girl). Nothing against the kids, it would just add a LOT of people to our guest count, and would also put us over our max limit.
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When addressing invites, we only addressed them to those who we are inviting ("Mr & Mrs Smith" instead of "The Smith Family"). Also add a line on the invitations that says something along the lines of, "We have reserved __ seats in your honor", and then fill in the number of people you're inviting from that household. Anyone who tries to RSVP for more than what you reserved for them (or if they try to RSVP for their kids or anyone else who wasn't invited), reach out to them at that time to say that you're so sorry, but due to venue capacity limitations, you are unable to include children at your wedding.
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You could also add a note on your website that states something along the lines of, "We love your children, but our event will be an adult only affair. We apologize for any inconvenience."
I think children need to be invited to both or none. It puts parents in an awkward position if they can't get child care and they have to leave or cannot attend until the reception (Which is their thank you from you).
There are numerous ways to indicate that the event is adults only (with minor exceptions, wedding party, children of the couple to be married, etc).
- Adult reception to follow on the invitation and the Info Card
- Addressing the invitation to only those invited. Mr. and Mrs Smith vs The Smith Family
- Putting Adult Only on the wedding website (should you have one)
- RSVP Cards. We have reserved X seats in your honor
Really anything after that, those who are invited are being willfully obtuse
If there are vaccines available at that time, we'll give parents the option to bring them. Expecting that the ones who are traveling far will bring them and the ones who are local will just get a babysitter.
We're only having one child which is my nephew and he's going to be the ringbearer, he'll be 6 by the time our wedding rolls around. Otherwise no children.
We don't have a lot of children in our life, just my other nephew who will be 1 1/2 and FH's cousin had a baby who will be 1 as well.
We've already told my FSIL and FBIL that their son will not be invited which they're totally OK, in FSIL's words "I don't want to mother at a wedding" lol and FH's cousin has in laws that can watch baby.
My nephew is really only our ring bearer so he can be invited cause if he wasn't his parents wouldn't come as they would have no one to watch him and his mother is very important to me and I couldn't imagine my day without her.
All weddings in our families and social circles are all kids allowed to the entire day. You would be banned from future family events if you don’t invite kids. Thankfully they are well behaved because parents take the time to teach them how to act in public
We only invited my niece and nephew. We had a large number of friends with new babies (less than 3 months old). I told those friends that we were totally fine with them bringing their tiny babies but none of them did.
We only included the children in the bridal party (our 2 sons, our 2 flower girls, the ring bearer and broom bearer). We put it on our website, addressed the invites to the adults only, and gave plenty of notice for them to decide what to do.