i have 2 bridesmaids, and both are them are my Moh. One of them backed out, what do i do?

No need to do anything really. It's fine to have even numbers.

Any good photographer will be able to arrange people so that photos look fine. For the recessional, have them "weave" out, like one GM, then your MOH, then the other GM then you two as a pair walk out.

I would avoid replacement or asking someone to be a back up. That will just make them feel, well, second best.

Lots of folks here have uneven numbers, if you have questions feel free to ask!

You could have the BM and 3 groomsmsen process In to the ceremony but then sit in the first row instead of stand next to you. If you’re feeling uncomfortable with how it would look uneven or if you’re embarrassed you only have 1 and he has 3, this is how I would do it.

We didn’t have any bridesmaids or groomsmen. My husband could easily have had 6 groomsmen because he has 6 really really close friends. I don’t have any close friends that I would have asked so if we had done a bridal party, it would have been uneven. Good luck with whatever you decide!

You could have both groomsmen escort your bridesmaid in, then have the best man walk up/ down the aisle alone. Or he could escort your mom or another parent who doesn't have someone to walk with. Another idea would be to just have his 2 groomsmen walk in from the side and be standing up at the altar then his best man could escort your bridesmaid in.

Leave it be. Don’t replace anyone. It sends the message that she is a disposable friend.

I have brung in my other sister because my older had backed out for reasons at first that didn't make since. I wanted my wedding to be where we all came together and celebrate "Love" instead I gotten was jealousy any and everything that they could think of to turn a beautiful moment into Chaos. Their own feels on why they didnt get married or it should have been them. But after that I have some very good friends that kept reminding me that I deserve to be happy and get married to the man that I Love. I had 2 MOHS so do what you have to do and dont for a sec be sad about the decision that you made thos is your wedding. We try to please others when they are jealous you deserve this and when there day comes you will be happy for them. We have to put ourselves first and your happiness ok go be happy with your new husband and future family. Congratulations sweetheart

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Thanks for your response Jack! That's very true, a good photographer would know what to do - I'm sure it wouldn't their first time experiencing something like this. Appreciate it

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That's great to hear that it's not a must to have even numbers! I think I might just stick with the 1 MOH and my husband will have 2 on his side. Thanks for sharing your story! It helps

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I love this message and I can completely relate to it. My MOH decided to back out because she said she has other financial obligations (down payment on a house) with her ex boyfriend which they broke up 3 months ago. It's quite sad that she's decided to put him first after calling me bridezilla & saying I was a high maintenance friend for not inviting him (I didn't even know they were together!). Of course there's a whole back story behind everything but it's out of my control now and I just have to learn to let it go. I'm so glad to hear that you've overcome your situation as well and found happiness and I'm sure your wedding day was perfect. I'll keep my head up high and continue planning without the MOH. Thank you for sharing your story and sending you lots of love

View Quoted Comment Your welcome but you can find someone else if you have time and yes I am happy but it was perfect we had mayhem but with all of that we still manage to enjoy ourselves and remember certain parts and have our first dance. Which was beautiful if you need me send me a dm and we can talk ok