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Dawn
Dedicated October 2014

I hate my wedding band

Dawn, on October 12, 2014 at 11:59 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 15

I love my engagement ring it a Sapphire middle stone with Diamonds "princess Diana " like. But I can't fit the wedding band unless custom. So I picked out a ring from a catalog because my FMIL works for there company and I HATE it.. I wanted something totally different it looks cheap.. I would rather go with something fake that wear it.I told my FH and he said we would upgrade. . I don't want to put it on my finger for our wedding vows. I know my FmIL will freak if I change it.. Help! Is it bad that I wanted to be a band from Sam's club today? ?

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Latest activity by Forever, on March 7, 2023 at 7:46 AM
  • Sally
    Super October 2014
    Sally ·
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    What a bummer, but if you don't like it FH should be on board with you to change it. I'd try twobirchjewelers (you can find them through their website or through Etsy). Maltese had a custom band designed by them...which now that I think of it I never checked for an update on. I also got my band from them and really love it. They're pretty inexpensive and nice!

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  • KimS
    Master September 2014
    KimS ·
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    Let her freak. It's a band that YOU have to wear. You should be happy with the choice.

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  • Future Mrs. L now Married!
    Expert March 2015
    Future Mrs. L now Married! ·
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    Get what you want... you have to live with it. Too bad if she freaks. If i hated something, my FH would return it and get me what i wanted. I wouldn't keep it to appease the FMIL, no way...

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  • ChewBekka
    Expert February 2015
    ChewBekka ·
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    Not your problem if she freaks....we can;t control other people's feelings. Just let her know you and FH think option B woud be better. As long as you both are united on your end then who cares...

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  • Ashley P.
    Super October 2014
    Ashley P. ·
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    Meh, screw your FMIL. She doesn't have to wear it on her finger forever. Definitely speak up and tell FH what you want.

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  • DFG2014
    Super November 2014
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    Find one you like! she will get over it!

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  • K
    Master May 2014
    KT ·
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    Screw what FMIL will think! It's your wedding and your band!

    I hated the first band we picked out. We got it and it sat in the safe for a while and I never felt excited to wear it. I kept looking online on the website where DH got my e-ring and finally found one I loved AND it was on clearance for over 50% off because it was being discontinued. So we talked to the store and they were able to exchange my original band for the 2 new bands I wanted because my original wedding ring hadn't been sized. They only had 3 bands left in the whole corporation and I decided to get 2 of them. We had to get the bands shipped to the store in my area.

    Maybe see if you can exchange the band you got for a different back from the same place you got your band. It never hurts to ask!

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  • AndixLyn
    Master June 2015
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    Who cares what she thinks, she can wear it. have him put on your e ring that day if you dont find another ring by then.

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  • OGmelanie
    VIP July 2015
    OGmelanie ·
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    Dazzlingrock.com

    I'm buying my wedding band from here. Their really affordable and there are lots of sapphire options to match your ring. Screw your FMIL, your the one who has to wear it!

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  • Northern MN
    Master November 2014
    Northern MN ·
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    Do what works for you...or keep the peace...whichever is more of a priority for you. Or you could just go with out a band and have your stunning ring be all you use.

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  • KR
    Super September 2014
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    I agree, do what you want! Definitely don't let FMIL dictate what you wear on your hand every day. I also have a very unique, custom engagement ring and decided against having a band at all because I didn't want to detract from my ring. So I just took it off on the wedding day and we used it as my wedding ring.

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  • L
    Savvy May 2015
    Lydia ·
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    Did your FMIL gift the ring to you? If not, then it shouldn't be a big deal to change it. Just let her know that you found one you liked more after the fact. My fiancee and I are going to be married with stand-in rings because we expect our desired ones will be very expensive. Remember, it isn't the ring that you're marrying, it's the person you love. Make sure your FMIL knows that you're exchanging the ring, not the marriage.

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  • Andrea
    Expert June 2015
    Andrea ·
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    I don't understand why you're complaining when you said you chose the band...if your FMIL forced you to choose one from her company, screw what she says and get something you like. If you chose the band for the sole reason that your FMIL works there, then guess what, you deserve it, why would you voluntarily choose something you don't like, then complain about it?

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  • Annie & Javi
    Master October 2015
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    Get something you like.

    I don't understand why your FMIL would care so much? Did she pay for it?

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  • F
    Beginner July 2023
    Forever ·
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    It's natural to want a wedding band that complements your engagement ring. Consider discussing your concerns with your FH and FMIL, and look into alternative options such as Forever Moissanite for a cost-effective yet elegant option.

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