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I HATE my FH's step mom!!

KacieD., on August 29, 2016 at 2:17 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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So let me just say my FH's stepmother is literally the wicked witch from hell! She is a mid 50's cheer-mom who dresses like a teen and gossips like one too!

My FH has hated her since she came into the picture when he was younger. Well recently they got into a huge argument, which has snowballed into an even bigger mess. His dad hasn't spoken to him in months because he's wrapped around his wife's finger. She's been keeping my FH from seeing his little sister (who adores both him and I.) She even went as far as to call me names and say I'll never be part of her family among other hurtful things. )-:

Should I still invite her to the wedding? I love my FH's little sister; his dad and stepmom i could do without. I know she will only cause trouble on my wedding day but I'm really conflicted.

Keep in mind: she has burned many bridges with the rest of FH's family. There's many people who hate her who will be there, only adding to the problem.

H E L P !!!

Also yay for my 1st post!(-:

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Latest activity by Elphaba, on August 29, 2016 at 3:02 AM

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1Sooner.fan · on August 29, 2016 at 2:23 AM
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Id say leave that up to your FH. If his dad is invited, you kind of have to invite the step-mom. But it should be your FH's decision if he wants to invite them or not, since they're his family.
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Jessinlove · on August 29, 2016 at 2:24 AM
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If you don't invite her be prepared to never have any type of relationship with her ever again. What does FH say? Does he want her there? You can't really have FFIL there and not invite her as well. ETA: Also just re read your 1st paragraph, you saying so many negative things about her leads me to believe it will be difficult to ever repair this relationship or you invite her to your wedding if there is clearly no respect there.
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KacieD. · on August 29, 2016 at 2:42 AM
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@Jessinlove - I lost all respect when she called me a whore in front of her 10 year old daughter because she was upset at her step-son. I'm not asking for us to have a relationship, because she's a vicious woman and I have no interest in interacting with her. But I do love her daughter, and hate to see FH's relationship with his sister destroyed. It's more like, I'm willing to tolerate her.
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KacieD. · on August 29, 2016 at 2:47 AM
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My fiancé has made it extremely clear to me that he doesn't want her there. He does want his dad and sister though. And unfortunately he's leaving the decision up to me..
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Spirit · on August 29, 2016 at 3:01 AM
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It's not fair that he leaves the decision up to you, though I imagine he's trying to get you to do what makes you happy. But family is a strict no-go for non blood relatives, and you can bet his stepmom will use this as major ammunition against you in the future if she gets whiff that this was ultimately your decision.

Let him sort it out and announce it to his family. This is not your issue to fix and it's better if you stay out of it!
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