I hate my boudoir pictures.

Exactly what you posted here.

I second what Kelsie said. I think you explained yourself very well!

Ditto. Is your expectation that she redo them for free? I'm not sure any photogrplapher will do that.

Butterfly finder: I'm not exactly sure where in that post I even remotely hinted that she re-do them for free, but no, that is not my expectation. She's located in South FL, and I'm in NE. I was going to book another session with her next time I'm in her neck of the woods

Copy and paste from this thread that you wrote. I'm sure she will understand

I don't think you said anything that would suggest you have the expectation of a free shoot, however, I think the fact that anyone might be able to interpret that would mean you should probably just say that you want to book another session with her. Just to be on the safe side and avoid any miscommunication. Otherwise I think what you said was fine. It makes it clear that you aren't unsatisfied with her personal work, but more with what you wore.

Definitely

Agree with others- send her what you typed here on WW. I think she will understand. Good luck!

That's a bummer. I agree just copy and paste. Good luck on your next shoot.

Ugh... This is my fear when I do my boudoir shoot. I've gained 40 pounds since the last time I tried squeezing into something sexy. I also wasn't sure if you were wanting her to redo them for free or not. Make sure you make that clear to her. I'm sure you can do as many shoots as you want as long as you're paying.....

Wow, I'm sorry... Good luck with next time. I don't think you implied that you would want to do it for free at all, but maybe squeeze that in, just so she knows you're reasonable

You got great advice here. Don't beat yourself up either, okay? Ask for her advice on what to wear and enjoy it. I have a colleague who does boudoir shots of all shapes and sizes of women and they are beautiful photos.

I think that what you said is fine. I might just write to her and say " hi photographer, I would like to set up another boudoir shoot with you for the next time that I am in FL. I think that your photographs are great, unfortunately I feel like I was not wearing things that were flattering on me and there for do not like the way I look. I find that I can not enjoy the photographs of myself for that reason. I would love the opportunity to work with you again and take another go at it."

I feel this same way about the one engagement picture preview I've seen so far. I don't know what I'll do if I like chubby in all of them... I think you're idea to re-do them is fantastic and totally understandable.

Bummer...I know you were really excited about them. I agree with others - I think telling her exactly what you told us is perfect for the email.

I'm sorry you feel this way! I agree with the others. What you already said is perfect.

I would word it to her as others here have suggested, she may gladly oblige you...but don't be surprised if she doesn't want to do it again. I have a fine art nude and non traditional boudoir website and body of work, and go to great pain to pick the most flattering angles of each unique subject. And do any needed Photoshop repairs that don't leave a trace. So I go above and beyond to make their experience fun and comfortable, but I can't always fix their self image, in which case if I get an email like that I carefully consider if we're a good fit to work together again.

Thanks Jay, I totally get what you're saying. This is the first time I've felt negative toward the way I look in 6 years. These photos were taken the same day as my wedding, and I thought I looked bangin in my wedding dress. I have absolutely no qualms about how I looked that day (aside from these photos) so I don't think that this is "unfixable" like it would be with a woman who sees herself negatively at any given moment. I really think it was because of the outfits and the whopping bruise I had on one of my legs that was just too big/dark to eradicate...which is typical of me lol. I think if I pick outfits myself (and not something someone else picked for me), I will feel better about it all. I totally dropped the ball on what I was going to wear because at the end of planning, frankly, I ran out of money. Now that we've come up for air, so to speak, since paying for the wedding, I can do this the right way. I may also show DH the current pictures and see what he thinks. He's pretty good at making me feel better when I have rare weak moments about my body.

I totally get that the wrong undergarments can make you feel like crap. I bought a bustier off amazon, and when I tried it on I HATED the way it fit on me. But I showed it to DH and he LOVED it and thought it was super sexy. If you haven't shown your pictures to your DH yet, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised with his reaction and may change your mind about wanting to have them redone.

I think I will show him. I would hate to pay all that money for the hair, make up, and outfits for the reshoot if he liked the originals in the first place. Maybe I'll have him pick his top 3 and then do an anniversary shoot to add to the 10 photo album I meant to make. An anniversary shoot may also be a fun way to get to wear my dress again