i got invited to her wedding

I don't think you have to invite someone to your wedding because they invited you to theirs. It would be totally different if you were having more than 15 people attend. If she asks just say it's a small intimate gathering and that it's not personal.

No. You don’t need to invite someone just because you were invited to theirs. Not how it works. Everyone has different parameters for guestlists. You don’t need to do or say anything, unless she asks a specific question, and then simply say you’re having a tiny, private ceremony.

I wouldn't say anything to her, unless she asks. If she asks, just explain that due to costs and other things y'all kept it small and intimate with just a few people. Just because she invited you to her wedding, doesn't mean you are obligated to do the same. Everyone has different wedding sizes, styles, and budgets....so it's understandable if you can't invite everyone.

I have been to weddings for people who are not invited or not coming to our wedding, in a couple of cases I was a part of the wedding. There is no obligation, especially when you already have a very small, intimate event planned. Most people understand and are just excited for you on your big day.

You totally don't need to invite someone because they invited you, especially if it was 4 years ago! It's a little rude to go to someone's wedding right before yours and then not invite them to yours but this situation does not really apply.

I don’t think you should have to invite her. I’m am also doing an intimate wedding of 24 people total, the extended family will know that it will be immediate family only. Maybe your cousins wedding was bigger and could invite a lot of people. But if you were originally not planning on inviting her then don’t just invite her because you think you have to repay the favor. Some people have a big wedding and invite everyone they know, others have intimate weddings with immediate family only, so I think your cousin would understand.

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You're having such a small wedding I think it's ok not to invite those who invited you

I was in a very similar situation. My cousin got married in 2017 and she invited me to her wedding. Her wedding was big and we got married this year in a very intimate celebration. I was honest with her and explained that we were having a very intimate ceremony only with parents and siblings and she understood.

It's okay to not invite someone who invited you to their own wedding!

1 There’s no etiquette rule that states you have to invite someone just because they invited you, you’re in the clear!
2 Your wedding is small, people will understand if it’s just for immediate family & closest friends.

You don’t have to invite someone because you were invited to their wedding specially when having such a small intimate wedding. Don’t feel obligated to extend your list because of it.

You don't need to invite her or say anything. Those are two different situations.