i feel so lonely and unmotivated

I’m sorry you feel alone throughout this process. It’s very common for grooms and people around you to not be as excited as you’d like about it. But we here on WeddingWire love all things weddings and are here for you and excited for you!

View Quoted Comment ❤️❤️ thank you so much

It’s kind of odd that your fiancé isn’t as excited if you’ve been talking about it for awhile now. Does your family like him?

I’m so sorry that you feel lonely! It is true it seems no one will ever be as excited as we are, which is fine, but it does hurt a little when no one seems to care. I even have some bridesmaids who seem like they couldn’t care less! It does hurt when people you love don’t appear to be excited for us. But I agree with PP that all of us on this app LOVE all things weddings and we are here to support you during this process! Honestly thank goodness for the WW community! ❤️

One thing I’ve found with my FH is that when I actually make him do some of the planning with me (venue visits, cake tasting, decor) it helps him get a bit more excited! I feel like a lot of our FHs would just rather tie the knot and be done instead of plan every little detail lol. I hope this helps you to know you aren’t alone!!

View Quoted Comment That’s a good idea! Definitely gets the FH a more exciting when they get a say in the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Yes! Even picking out his grooms cake flavor or registry items helps get him a bit more interested. Good luck!!

It’s clear he takes awhile to mull things over(15 years) so ask him what time frame works for him. No generic crap like in a few years-when should we get married. Then start planning.

I have been feeling this same way! I am not usually close to my family (which doesnt bother me), but the whole being engaged process has made me felt so alone! I just want someone to be excited with me or for me, but its just me on my own island. If you figure out a cure please share!

Why isn’t your fiancé excited?

Family and friends aside, why isn't your fiance excited?! Personally, I wouldn't stuck around that long. From an outside perspective, he seems like someone who doesn't want to get married. Many men aren't into the whole wedding planning aspect in general, but a 15 years together and nothing? I'd be doing some digging. That might be why friends and family haven't reached out. They may have the same concerns.

I'm sorry you feel alone but honestly that is the wedding planning Journey. I often see Brides on here that get frustrated that no one is asking about planning but I think that sometimes Brides forget that it's not other people's jobs to plan the wedding. I hate to sound harsh but being realistic as you stated you pushed the idea of the wedding on your fiance which to me sounds like he would probably just rather go to the courthouse and doesn't want a full wedding. Sadly if one partner is not interested in the whole idea of wedding ceremony you are not really going to get a lot out of them. I'm doing much more planning for our small elopement because my fiance would just rather go to the courthouse but I told him that's not what I want to do. I think the move to the new state and you starting over to make friends is also what is Weighing on you emotionally. I think you need to take a step back and just relax I just focus on doing things that make you happy. I think if you want the wedding you should have what you want but just understand that the plan is going to fall on you. And that is okay because then you can have more decision-making about the day that you want. It's not that uncommon that men are not as into wedding planning as the woman because really it's mostly us that want the ceremony. Sometimes it is the man that wants one and a woman that doesn't. I just think in life it's hard to fully get someone on board if they are not necessarily in the same mindset as you but it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. I think where you mostly need his help will be the decision all the type of food you want at your reception as well as the date. Although I would really sit down and talk to him and maybe you can come up with a compromise. Maybe he doesn't want this big grandiose wedding but something smaller. Today's about both of you and I feel like you both should have a compromise and what you want.

Don’t do it don’t elope if you want your real wedding you deserve it. My FH who I had been with 17 years in total he proposed 7 years ago but calamity such as death of parents etc kept delaying our plans but once we were in a better space I thought he would be all for planning and I was disappointed when I felt like his attitude was less than lackluster when we did. I had to have a talk with him and it really helped because in that talk he expressed how much he did want to get married etc. So it allows me to plan throw him a few things I think will make him excited and move on with planning as far as friends I have one friend super excited for me so she is my MOH the others are just there. Don’t let anyone take away from your special day that you deserve. Congratulations and get happy and excited you deserve it.