I aim high but understand that things aren't perfect. I'm very flexible and find a way to justify why things happened. My Buddhist friend told me, "things that happen are suppose to happen and it just happens". I was both our planner and coordinator. I didn't just to the minimum - I went above and beyond. Instead of doing wedding programs for the reception, I had a caricature poster of our wedding party; instead of a regular cake topper, we had a custom made disney couple cake topper. I went through each of the music played for both the ceremony & reception. Instead of doing the typical bouquet toss, I did the fortune bouquet. For our guest book table, I made an infographic poster of our love story; we had a Kardashian style photo booth and then a regular photo op with props out on the patio. We had a church "coordinator" and venue coordinator yet none of them really helped me, so I had to step up and coordinate everything.
I feel so bad bc it should be the best day ever but thinking about my wedding day just irritates me. I think bc I was more of the planner/coordinator than the bride.
- we had an unplugged ceremony and people still took pictures. Very few had the audacity to post it on facebook & what's funny is that I'm not even close to them
- After the ceremony, I had specifically scheduled the photographer take pics of our wedding party and immediate family. We only had less than an hour to get those shots & then shots with my husband and I. There were extended family that still stayed, no matter how much I said (or my bridesmaids & photographer) said that they needed to leave. They insisted on having pictures with us at the church bc it HAD to be at the church. They finally left when bridezilla came out and said, "look, we don't have much time here at church. We have pictures with our guests at the party. It's just immediate family - parents, siblings, and our grandparents + wedding party. That's it."
- MOH and bridesmaids said that no one would listen when they would try to escort people out and vice versa
- Flower girl's mom kept acting like she was part of the bridesmaids group - she dressed up in a long gown with our colors; stayed with us after and took pictures of us and posted them on facebook. She was in and out of our bridal suite with all her kids. Funny bc the other flower girl's mom (who's son was also the ring bearer) left us alone.
- During cocktail hour, no one was at the patio. They all stayed inside and I couldn't get people on the patio. No one paid the announcement for me,
- Our bridal suite at our reception had people who were NOT in our wedding party. It was more of a hang out place for my husband's cousins :/ one of my bridesmaid's (who had a 5 month old) couldn't pump or feed her baby. The venue coordinator said there would be a sign but there wasn't. It wasn't locked either
- We specifically had our emcee read a list of names we wanted to take pics with. After cake cutting, guests would stay in their seats and have cake as bride/groom would take pics on the patio with the certain names the emcee announced. Reason being is we both had cousins from out of town and we wanted pictures with them. What ended up happening was his LOCAL cousins came out to the patio and demanded our photographer that they needed a cousin picture.
- During the ceremony (vows part) - instead of saying my name, i said, his name and he was annoyed with it at first bc everyone laughed at me & he said he didn't want people thinking I was stupid. At that point, I had no brain cells from being planner/coordinator. Also, during the ceremony, he never helped me walk with my dress, so i waddled behind him
- I had a list of songs that the DJ needed to play for certain events - cake cutting, mother-son, father-daughter dances...it was a simple list (i made it so easy fo him) and he messed it up 5 times. I had to run across the floor to tell him to stop
- I feel like husband's side of the family only cheered when it was their side (groomsmen and other family members) vs. being inclusive to everyone
Overall - our guests (mainly family members) did not listen or follow rules. They were all over the place. Some of them were standing up and in the way of things and the photographer. Husband just tells me they were having fun but I found it rude. It also didn't help that his side of the family is into inappropriate sex jokes. WHen his best man spoke and made those jokes, his family loved it. My family (and even friends) found it offensive.
