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Having a specific date in mind can REALLY limit your options. Selecting a day that's *not* a dating anniversary/important date to you two can also just expand the joy. As someone in the wedding industry, I never advise brides and grooms to pick a certain day of the month/year over something that will work, logistically, for themselves and family/friends.

I'm assuming you mean you'd do a small courthouse ceremony next year, and a bigger celebration on your 10-year anniversary? If you're on a time crunch for getting married (you want to TTC soon, etc.) then that's a great option. I'd say, any family members that may be medically compromised--I wouldn't risk them being at a wedding this year, or *perhaps* next year, because of worries about catching the virus. If those folks are able to Zoom, that could be a good option.

I had really wanted to get married on our dating anniversary, as well, since it fell on a Saturday last year.

However, between getting engaged on the New Year's right before that date, and my FIL had a standing business obligation out of the country at the same time. So, we just picked a new date.

As Megan and Hannah said - now we have a second date to celebrate!

Is there a reason you originally wanted to wait two years? I think knowing that would be good for anyone trying to give advice!