Miryam
Dedicated September 2019

i feel like im falling apart...

Miryam, on September 20, 2019 at 11:54 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 12
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Sorry in advance for this super long post, I need to vent and get everything off my chest before I break.


We get married in 7 days... we close on our new house in 2 days... we have to be out of our current house in 4 days...


My FH sent me a house listing a couple months ago saying how much he loved the house and wanted to see it. I want to clarify that we were not actively looking for a new house. I caved and we went to a showing and fell in love with the house. 2 days later we were making and offer and by the end of the week it was accepted. Long story short we had problems with our original lender and had to switch to another lender 1 week from closing. Our original closing got pushed back a whole month and is now scheduled for the monday before our wedding.


5 weeks ago my FH fell in our drive way and tore his pattelar tendon and had surgery. He has been in a full leg cast until this week when it was swapped out for a full leg brace. We just got the news that he will still have to be in that until after our wedding. Not only is he upset about this but also that he can not help with packing/moving.


To top everything else off his parents have been living with us for 3 months. They are currently builidng a home and asked if they could come stay with us in the mean time. They were only supposed to be staying with us 3 months and their house it not finished yet. They havent even cleared the land yet, so at this point they will be with us until christmas... at our new house.

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Latest activity by Elizabeth, on September 21, 2019 at 2:25 PM
  • V
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    Veronica ·
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    Our gosh I am so sorry. Our lease on our apartment was up about 3 weeks from our wedding and we extended for 4 months which made our payments go by like $500 per month for those 4 months, but we didn't want to try to move right before our wedding. I can't imagine having to do all of this. Can your future in-laws help with moving or do you have any extra money right now to hire movers? I would hate to have to hire someone m, but if you don't have family or friends that could help you move then you might not have any choice. Congratulations on the house and wedding I hope everything works out.
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  • Caytlyn
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    Caytlyn ·
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    As difficult as it will be, you’re going to get through this. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help. Have you reached out to friends and family yet? Are your in laws helping with packing and moving? That only seems fair. Like PP mentioned, if it’s in your budget you could hire movers. It’s going to be a rough week, but at the end of it, you’ll have a new home that you love with the man that you love the most. One day you’ll think back on this time and laugh.
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  • Jeanie
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    Jeanie ·
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    Wow that’s a lot on your plate! I surely hope his parents are helping you pack since you’ve been gracious enough to let them stay. If it were me, I would be bribing all my friends with pizza and booze to come help out (they would anyway). Point being, don’t be afraid to ask for help. I know I would need it! A year from now this will all be a good story about the months leading up to your wedding. And as long as your fiancés brace fits under his pants, you probably won’t notice it much in pictures. Just have your photographer aware of it and he can pose you to try and avoid fully showing the wounded leg when possible.
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  • Melle
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    Melle ·
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    Oh man that's a lot going on all at once for sure. I'm sure you can get thru it. Sending you positive vibes.
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  • Lauren
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    Lauren ·
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    Wow you have so much going on so close to your wedding. When it rains it pours with blessings as well as inconveniences. Stay strong it's all going to work out!

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  • Miryam
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    Miryam ·
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    His parents cant really help us, FMIL has bad knees and FFIL has a bad back. Thankfully we have a group of his cowers coming to help us. I dont know how we would do it without them.

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  • Miryam
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    Miryam ·
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    I keep trying to remind myself that it'll all be worth it in the end, Its just a little hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel right now.

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  • Miryam
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    Miryam ·
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    Unfortunately they are not helping us pack or move anything. They both have problems that makes it difficult for them to help. I wish his brace fit underhis pants! It's a big/complicated contraption. It's esensially teaching him how to use his leg again. Someday we'll look back and laugh. He's just upset beacuse that's not how he pictured his wedding day.

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  • Miryam
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    Miryam ·
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    Thank you so muchSmiley heart

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  • Miryam
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    Miryam ·
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    We've had a pretty rough year and were hoping it was over. When its rains it definitely pours. Im just praying for a smooth next couple days.

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  • Kelly
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    Kelly ·
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    Wow, that is a lot. But like others have said, you will get through it.

    It is great that you have people to help you move. Remember everything doesn't need to be put away, just out of the old house. The new house you have your whole life to do. Do yo have to clean the old house? I wouldn't hire a moving company, I would do that on my own, and pay someone to clean the house that you are at. Deep breaths you will get through this.

    And congrats on your upcoming nuptials!

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  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    I'm so sorry to hear about all the stress falling on you! But, on the bright side of things: you're getting married and you have a new house!! I'm sure right now that isn't super comforting, but come Christmas time with your husband, your in-laws (hopefully) moving out, and your first holiday season in the new home, it'll all be worth it!


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