i feel like a loser

Not a loser at all! I found thru my wedding planning that people really just can't make it. Doesn't mean they don't want to be there though.

I personally always prefer smaller weddings. They are more intimate & fun & you’re actually surrounded by close people who care about you deeply. As famous Dunbar law of friendships says: people on average have 5 very close / intimate relationships & 15 close relationships. And it’s quality, not quantity of relationships that makes you feel happy & fulfilled. So if you take these numbers for you & FH, for an intimate wedding with people who have real meaning in your life, we would all have around 30 people only attend our weddings 😃
Also, there are many reasons why people can’t attend. We have, believe it or not, 4 couples of really close friends who will not be able to come because they are all having babies within few weeks around our wedding date! How crazy is that! But things like these could never make me feel like a loser! So they shouldn’t make you either 🙂 You’ll have a beautiful wedding no matter if there are 10 or 100 people there!

I agree with ALL comments...you are not a loser...do not feel that way. I have a small invite list compared to my FH...I honestly don't want a lot of people...its about me and him. Enjoy the people that do attend; you will have a great time celebrating your new journey and the people that came to support that. Congratulations!!!

I am feeling the same way right now. It is hard to keep it all together sometimes. We invited 150ish people to our wedding. So far we have 62 yeses, 53 no's and 40ish yet to reply, but looking at the not yet replied list, realistically only a few more will end up in the yes column. Part of our problem is nearly every one needs to travel, and our date is right after school starts.... I am trying to remind my self that people would come if they could.

You are not a loser. Share your moments with the people who will be there and will be happy for you and your fh. You are going to have a beautiful wedding.

You're not a loser! You will have a wonderful wedding with those there to support you. We're probably going to be inviting about 30 people to our wedding.

Agree there’s nothing about wedding attendance that makes anyone a loser !

i think the issue you are running into is having asked people to commit to something several months away. Most people simply can’t do that. So it’s not necessary matter of not wanting to come, but a matter of needing to give a concrete answer over 3 months before an event. I can’t know I can make it, so I can’t possibly RSVP yes so far in advance. I might want to go, I might later find out I totally would be able to go. But if you tell me you need an answer today, I have to say no because there’s no way I can guarantee my availability in November.

You are not a loser! I have this fear too, I talked to my FH about it and we both agreed no matter who showed up it was our day. My bridal shower is turning out this way as well, my invites go out in 2 weeks. I invited 42 people to my shower its next weekend an not one person has RVSP'd so I am a little upset about that bc I feel like no one wants to celebrate me but who knows they may all just show up. Doesn't help my Aunt and MOH to plan, they wanted to see how big of a cake they needed so I said well I don't know, plan for the amount I sent out and if there is no one who comes we will all be eating mini sandwiches and cake for a few days LOL

You're not a loser! The people who want to be there will find a way to be there...for you!! Also, if you've budgeted for a bigger wedding you can take those savings and spend it on a killer honeymoon

Don't feel like a loser! How many people attend has nothing to do with what kind of person you are. We only have 42 on our guest list at the moment and they might not all show up!

I had one person attend my bachelorette party weekend. They asked to throw me another one and have already bailed on that. I moved and I never had a lot of female friends. There is now really only my best friend and my fiancé. I would rather just party with them than anyone else anyways. My cousin even told me I don’t deserve a wedding (she was mad I wasn’t having one within 30 min of her and the family). So my family even protested and said they wouldn’t come. I had a engagement party on my family’s farm... some didn’t even come down the driveway to join. So I’ve been there trust me.
I will have about 18ppl at my wedding.
You are NOT a loser I promise. Just know that everyone there REALLY loves you and is really happy for you and cares about you.
It will be so much fun with a small group of people (and less money and less stress too)
Good luck with everything!! 😊

I feel the same way and I have the same amount of people invited.

You are not a loser!! I do however, understand the feeling and am nervous I will not have a lot attending/coming to the different parties, etc.

All that really matters is that YOU feel loved and enjoy your special day with your FH! He’s on your side. I’m sure he’d marry you if it was just the two of you. 💕

Don't feel like a loser! Enjoy the people that do come and celebrate y'all. A very good friend of ours had less than 50 people at their wedding and it was a wonderful and intimate time. You're not a loser at all!

My best friend recently got married. 22 people in total, including the bride and groom. Best wedding I’ve ever been to. We all sat at one big table. Great group conversations. She felt more comfortable splurging on decorations cause it was so small. It was absolutely gorgeous.

Wanted to to do something similar. But I don’t have to balls to not invite all of my family.

View Quoted Comment Me too! My fiancé’s mom has 9 siblings.. his side is sooo much larger than mine.

I’ve been to 2 wedding less than 50, they were SO much fun and people had a great time and danced. It’s much more fun when your not cramped on the dance floor