I don't want my sister as a bridesmaid??

Don't beat around the bush just tell them all "NO just be our guest and support us that way."

Good Luck!

You are going to have to be really strong and firm. It's easy to cave, especially if you don't want to upset anyone but this is a special time in your life and you want to be able to enjoy every minute of it.

Explain that while you appreciate her wanting to "help" that you and your fiancé as a couple have decided to not have a bridal party and that you have everything handled. If she or your parents keep brining it up just restate your decision calmly but firmly and change the subject

Stay strong

Your day, too bad for her. I am having a small wedding as well (50 guests), and I am actually having 3 ladies in my bridal party and none of them are my sister lol. We aren't close (have a huge age gap, so we basically weren't even raised in the same household at the same time) and she is very disrespectful to my father which I have a huge problem with. So, she's not in my wedding. It is what it is.

Just remember this day is about you and your fiance. And tell her that. Just be bold. It isn't fair to you for her to ready you like that. Stand up for your feelings and yourself. You should do it the way you want. If you don't have any wedding party then that's it. No other explanation is needed

"This is our decision, and this is what we've decided. _____, you can yell, scream, and pout all you want. This isn't your day, and I am not going to make it about you."

Just let everyone know that there will be NO wedding party. If it is a destination wedding, maybe you'll get lucky and she won't even attend.

What is it lately with ladies having ridiculous families demanding a part in a wedding like it's a goddamned play?

Everyone has given good advice. Just be prepared for the whining and emotional onslaught when you tell her/them. If/when she flips out, walk away. Make sure you and your FH are united on this though - if he gives in and has someone on his side, you will have an uphill battle on your hands.

Good luck!

You should explain to her that she is not being excluded since there is no bridal party for her to be a part of. Is there any other role you could give her? Only if you want to, of course.

Tell you parents first.

from big to small details this day belongs only to you and your FH. everyone else has or will plan their own wedding so stay firm to what will make you happy. explain your reasons to people up front to avoid hurt and confusion down the road.

good luck