i Don't Want Constant Interruption

I personally think it is a little rude to tell them to not bother you when they leave. These people are coming to celebrate with you because you chose for them to be there. I have been to a lot of weddings where guests just leave because they don’t want to be a bother.

Ummm so elope alone? What’s the point of inviting guests if you don’t want to interact with them? So they can bring you gifts?

I don’t think there’s a way to do this without being rude. These people came to celebrate with you- you can take two seconds to say goodbye. I doubt everyone will say bye and some may come out to the dance floor to do it, but I imagine any kind of language insinuating guests should leave you alone- whether it’s subtle or not- is going to offend someone.

Hmm I have never heard of this happening. Did you look online for ways to phrase it? The only thing I can think of is if the DJ made an announcement like "Now it's time for the bride and groom to dance the night away!" Or something. I've attended 3 weddings just this year and more in years prior and have not seen this happen anywhere. Wouldn't it be rude to tell your own guests not to bother you? They're there because they love you enough to be there.

Imagine if you were hosting friends at your home. They arrive, you say your hello's, show them where the food is, and then go into the other room so you can avoid being 'interrupted'. That is essentially what you are wanting to do.

Yes, your wedding day is special and is all about you...but the bottom line is you are hosting a party, and part of that responsibility includes interacting with your guests throughout the entire event.

Pretty sure everyone understands what you're asking, and I'm betting you're not going to find anyone here who will say Yep! I Did That!

As Caytlyn said, if you don't want guests interrupting you and keeping you from enjoying your wedding, then you elope. Another option would be to have a small, intimate wedding with 20 or so people. No matter who pays for the wedding, it's rude to tell people you invited to share your day not to bother you.

Sorry you feel everyone is rude for pointing out that doing such a thing would be rude, but they're right. It would.

I agree with others that if you don't want to be "interrupted" by your guests it might make more sense to elope. If I attended at a wedding and was told to "not interupt the B&G" (beyond not bothering them while they were eating or enjoying their first dance, etc., which are all totally reasonable requests in my book), I'd probably think it was time to leave. If you invite people to witness your wedding, I think you should take advantage of all the opportunities to interact with them. If you want uninterrupted time alone, elope, OR enjoy a fabulous honeymoon, just the two of you, after the wedding.

I’ve never seen it done, and would absolutely be offended if I did. Truly if you don’t want anyone to “bother” you at your wedding, don’t invite anyone.

Im a bride who says I didn’t have enough time at my wedding— it doesn’t mean I didn’t enjoy it, and it doesn’t mean anyone got in my way. I mean there were so many people there and I wanted to spend time with each and every one of them and there wasn’t enough time. I had lots of fun at my wedding and enjoyed every second of it, and simply wanted more time. More time with everyone. No one interrupted my husband and I when we were having a moment. But, I also wanted to spend lots of time with everyone— that’s why we invited them. To spend time with them.

when everyone’s answering the same general answer, instead of getting mad at them, it’s good to take a moment to process the universal point. This isn’t about people being mean to you, it’s about seeing the situation differently.

The moment you invite anyone to your wedding, it becomes about more than just your partner. If you want this to be intimate time with your partner, that’s fine— lots of people want that, and plan small, intimate weddings. But don’t include other people if you don’t actually want them included

I’ve never seen this done before but I just wanted to say I was able to completely enjoy my entire wedding. We got to stay seated our entire dinner and enjoy it and we had fun on the dance floor with all of our guests. No one pulled us away to say goodbye and I didn’t feel pulled in a million directions at all. I genuinely ate, drank, and mingled without pressure the whole night.

You shouldn’t feel interrupted by your guests. Everyone spends a lot of time on their guest lists, and these are the people you choose as who is closest and most important to you. To say you don’t want to be interrupted by them makes it sound like you could care less if they came, so why bother inviting them at that point? You will have people who opt to leave without saying goodbye, but don’t reject those who do. There is no polite way to ask them to ignore the couple that they spent time and money to come see marry.

I've never been to a wedding and the bride n groom seemed bothered of their guests doing this. I know my family and friends would find it very rude if me and my FH would tell them to not bother us when we are on the dance floor. I know myself I would find that to be rude also😱


🤷 it's your wedding so maybe ask your dj to mention it to your guests at the beginning but as this is your wedding you should say thank you and goodbye to your guests but that's my own opinion.

There is no polite way to ask your guests not to “interrupt” you. You are the hosts of the party. That means that you have some responsibilities. These people are coming to your wedding and you can’t even be bothered with thanking them and saying bye?

I'm gonna have to agree with PP's on this, this would definitely come across rude. I understand where you're coming from and I want to be able to enjoy my wedding too without someone always trying to pull me away from the party, but that's part of a wedding. We're going to make a conscious effort to speak to every single person at our wedding after dinner so that hopefully we can enjoy the evening with them without missing out on everything. I would definitely advise against having any sort of announcement like this.

There’s no need for an announcement. It comes off rude. I love to dance, my husband does to make me happy but he loves to chill at the bar and talk. We went about our night together between dance floor and bar and people came up and spoke or danced with us and it was great. No one pulled us away, they just joined in with whatever we were doing and we got to see everyone. I had one friend pull me aside after drinking a little too much and I looked at my DJ panicked because he knew I loved the song on. Once he saw me back on the dance floor he cut the song to the top for me. Even if he hadn’t though, one person wasn’t going to ruin the best day of my life.

Goodness why did you even invite guests if you dont want to celebrate with them. Not only is this rude, its ridiculous.

Why are you having a reception then...

I agree with PPs that guests are going to be offended. If you don't want guests to bother you, the only polite alternative is to elope or have a very small wedding. I know you probably don't mean to be rude, but that's what your request would come across as!

I think no matter how politely you phrase it, that’s an incredibly rude thing to say. I understand that it’s important to enjoy your wedding and have fun, but the point of having guests there IS to share the day with them. And chances are, the most you’ll get to talk to them is saying hello, goodbye, and maybe a sentence here and there. I would be very annoyed as a guest if a couple made that request.

That's hard aha. Because honestly everyone wants to talk to you. You're the reason why they're there. I know what you mean though because God some people tried taking so much of my time but it's because they're excited and some haven't seen you in a while so they want to talk to you.

I knew after the first few sentences this was going to be a flurry of comments! But yes, I agree with everyone, do not do this!