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Sarah
Savvy October 2020

i don’t want a wedding party... the groom does!

Sarah, on November 10, 2019 at 7:46 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 8
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Hi all! I’m having some difficulty with a basic part of the wedding. This is my second marriage, my fiancé’s first; and he wants to have at least 2 of his friends as groomsman and I have decided that will not be having any bridesmaids. I had bridesmaids/groomsman at my first wedding they were definitely not something that feel I NEEDED. I have gently tried to convince him to forgo the attendants but he is insistent. It is important that he has his “brothers” as he calls them, next to him on the wedding day but what happens if I don’t have any girls on my side? Will it look weird? Should I even care? I truly don’t want the hassle of extra people to worry about and I really really don’t want to put the same girls through a second wedding, who already stood by me once. I’m kind of stumped. Thoughts!?!?

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Latest activity by Cyndy, on November 11, 2019 at 9:03 AM
  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    Can he have his friends act as groomsmen but not physically stand with you at the wedding? Like they could do everything groomsmen do but instead of standing up during the ceremony they could just have front row seats
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  • Shamaree
    Dedicated February 2020
    Shamaree ·
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    My fiancé wanted groomsmen as well when we talked about marriage a few years ago. I was going to compromise and have them walk down the aisle but then sit in the front so that they aren’t with us...but they’re still right there. Luckily he got over that desire and we’re eloping as we both feel it should be all about us.

    would he be ok with them sitting?
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  • Adrienne
    Dedicated February 2020
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    Maybe just compromise and have "bridesmaids" that are there up with you to balance things out. Have them wear something that goes with your color theme, but not official bridesmaids dresses. Don't assign them any official title or duties. Our wedding guest list is 20 people, and I wanted my best friend to be up there with me until I started really planning things out. I realized that it doesn't matter where she is at our wedding, as long as she's there. Also our venue has a very small ceremony site so we can't have a wedding party up there. They won't fit. ;-)
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  • Sarah
    Savvy October 2020
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    That’s an excellent idea! I’ll ask him. I bet the guys wouldn’t mind either. Thanks!
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  • Sarah
    Savvy October 2020
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    Awesome thought! I’ll bring it up. That is a great compromise! Thanks!
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  • W
    VIP September 2020
    Willow ·
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    Another compromise is have one of the groomsmen stand on his side and another on your side. You're getting married, there is no more his side or her side, you're all friends!
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    Do you need witnesses in your state to get married? If so, it might be a good idea for you to pick one person, man or woman, to act as your witness and stand on "your" side. You don't need to have the same number of attendants, and it would look fine especially since he has only two attendants for you to have just one.

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  • Cyndy
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    I love the idea of his groomsman just sitting in the front row. They are still with him but not up front.
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