i don’t want a bridal party, my fiancé does

Maybe you each just have a best man/woman, that way he can still have a person, but it won't be a whole thing. Also, maybe he could have the rest of his buddies be ushers? And they could still have fun together - do a bachelor party, etc., but it wouldn't be the awkward pressure on you.

I'm glad you guys are working together to find a solution! Best of luck!

Part of this depends on both your reasons for each of your views. Some people feel the groomsmen and bridesmaids will make things complex. Others don't want to have to select special people to be with them. Is it possible your fiancé could have a groomsman but you not have anyone on your side? Maybe have them only go to the front row instead of having them up at the altar with both of you.

He can have his people, but they don't need to walk down the aisle or stand up front. They can wear suits and have photos taken with him etc. Unless your FI wants all the things like a head table and BM speeches etc, you could compromise.

You don't have to have the same. HE can have a couple ppl, you don't' have to have any. It very normal these days to have uneven/unequal parties. You can both have what you want.

I'm am sure you know that compromise, in wedding planning and marriage, is very important. But no compromise is needed in this situation because you can each have what you want without the other needing to make any changes. You can skip having attendants, and your fiancé can have some. There's no reason why things need to be the same on both sides.

So do that. He can have 2 and you can have none! Especially since it's non-trad, you have nothing to worry about. Do you like/have a good relationship with them? You can have one stand on your side and one on his, or they can both just walk down the aisle and sit.

Unless there's a deeper reason why you don't want a wedding party, there's definitely some great compromises here.