i don’t want a big wedding

Everybody is going to want to your wedding you just have to stand firm and tell them your love to have them celebrate with you but it's a small affair and you're maxed out.

Thanks love

Hi Davina, how many guest are you trying to have? I would start getting a guest list ready to see who you really want to see at your weeding and when you have it ready to go just let everyone else know that you guys were on a strict budget and couldn't invite everyone although you would've loved to.

Thanks we’ve made a list of 80 ppl knocked it down to 60. I’m about to go lower lol no just joking 60 is my max.

We told quite a few people that we were getting married. They wanted to come. We didn't want a big wedding so we had a 30 person DW in Vegas. Some people were annoyed they didn't get an invite but we invited only close family and a couple of friends that we basically consider family.

Im not sure if this would work for you but this is something they do in Britain, where I got married my first time around. Certain people are invited to the ceremony and dinner (close family, close friends) and then other people are invited to join in the celebration after for the evening portion (dancing, bar etc). Its the norm over there. Might seem different but it works if you have a large amount of people but can only afford so many.

Thanks hun. I’m going to make it final by the new year. ❤️

Thanks love I’m not sure I’m going to talk to the Mr and see what we agree on. 💜

So have a small guest list. Invite only those closest to you.

Thank love. It’s not me I’ve picked my list and it’s set. He close to everyone so he has a decision to make lol

Sounds like he's really excited to marry you!!

I suggest making a list of the must invites and then create a second list for people who you would like to but aren't immediate family and close friends. (so that way if you have some that can't come, you can always invite from the second list). And, I would start to tell people that it's going to be small and intimate... so they start getting the idea that they might not be invited. (easiest and nicest way right now before invites go out).

LOL - Your FH needs to either stop talking to everyone (and explain the wedding is small/intimate) or open his wallet wider...... The guest list is the toughest part of planning in my opinion. Good luck!

Lol I agree 😜😂

View Quoted Comment Hi Tina, in the US this is a “tiered” reception and considered extremely rude to invite guests to only part of the celebration but not all.

The closet we have is if a couple elopes or has a small wedding (mostly family) and then throws a reception later (not same day). The reception-only can be as informal a cake & punch or backyard BBQ to a lavish party with dinner & dancing.

View Quoted Comment Were you thinking dinner & dancing? If you considered brunch (& no dancing/DJ) you could save money and invite all 60 guests if you wish.

Think about little restaurants and churches

hotels usually have varying sized rooms; probably a conference room would be perfect



then you can stick with sorry immediate family only because small venue excuse

My wedding is a bit different to yours, but we are still having a small wedding.

I'm having a destination wedding with only immediate family (15 of us all together). We keep getting funny looks from people when we say they are not invited so we are doing an evening event where everyone is invited a few months later. This all down to money (we are buying a house and paying for a wedding at the same time). Have you thought about maybe doing a party a few months later to celebrate with everyone.

Even if you are not inviting everyone they should be respecting your decision about who you want there and who you do not. It's your wedding don't let everyone who is not invited ruin it for you

I agree with Stephanie (& am doing the same thing)! Maybe see if you can compromise with your FH on a # + do a few things mentioned above to cut back on costs (brunch/daytime wedding, no DJ/dancing, etc)? I'd also discuss with him what you'd prefer that money to go towards; he might come around if he realized the 20 extra people he wants to invite is the equivalent of a mortgage payment/your honeymoon budget/whatever it may be.

Good luck!