I don't love my engagement ring...

I don't think you're wrong, but oh Lordy what a pickle you're in. I think if you can just tell him that it's not your style and could y'all maybe go trade it in on something that you both like... maybe that would work?

I would say that you have been having troubles at work with your ring and that you really want to be able to wear your ring at work so you would like to consider changing the band and setting- with his blessing. I'm sure he would understand.

Where your ring came from shouldn't be the issue.

Purchase a beautiful wedding band that is exactly what u want. Then tell him u feel like it And the wedding band dont match very well, so you will switch off between wearing your wedding band and ering. Wear the band u love often, and the ering every once in a while.

Oh hunny.... Yes you have every right to be disappointed he bought it cheap on Craigslist.. normally when girls complain that they don't like their ring, I'm disappointed for their fiance who spent the time and money picking it out.. but this situation is a little different. You also don't have any recourse since diamonds are falling out.. you can't bring it back to a store. Do you guys have the money you can go pick something out together? Maybe you can pawn this ring?

The issue should be that you can properly function with it during the day and you can't find a matching band, not that it was "cheap." I've seen some rings on CL that were pretty expensive, unless you know the exact cost or something. Bring it up gently, lots of girls on here have swapped out their rings.

I think there are possibly some underlying issues.

Do you know he bought the ring just because he was being cheap - as in do you know that for a fact? If he did, is he always cheap? Is this a trait (for flaw) you're just going to have to accept? Or, did he cheap out on the ring (or you) for a reason?

Why did he completely disregard what your sister and friend told him AFTER he asked? Is this typical? If so, why are you surprised? If not, why?

Did you want to go ring shopping together? Did he know that? Did he disregard your feelings?

I'd let the ring go for now and think about the circumstances surrounding the ring. I just think there's more to the story than just the ring.

I would focus on that fact that its not practical or you. You want to be able to wear it at work without worry. I would not bring up to him that you think its "cheap". Even if you do know how much he paid that's not fair to him. You can also say that something more practical for your life would be more your style but never imply that you do not appreciate what he got for you.

There are ladies who have upgraded on this site for some reason or another so I am assuming there is nothing wrong with it. I wouldn't continue to lie. It's not a great idea to start a marriage based on lies.

Where he got it from shouldnt matter, but what should have been done first was getting it appraised and insured. You have stones falling out and no one can do anything about it unless it comes from both of you out of pocket. Look into this.

I also think you should talk to him. You can explain nicely that its a beautiful ring, but not your style, or that it gets caught at work and its damaging it. Maybe you both can look into customizing the ring from a jeweler. I'm sure it is possible to keep your center stone, and some of the channel and halo diamonds, and just place them on a thinner band. Even the diamonds you dont use could go towards a band. That way its the same ring, (material wise), just placed differently.

Just replacing one teeny tiny halo stone was $400 at a jeweler since its off craigslist and no warranty from a store. He was wonderful about that, paid for the repair with only turning a little green and then researched insurance so hopefully it won't happen again, but we've only found insurance that covers the center stone.

And I'll probably lose your support with this next comment, but my sister's boyfriend is looking at Erings and has picked out my DREAM ring and I'm trying super hard not to be jealous.

I think the part that bothers me (in addition to stones falling out, not my style, etc) is that he completely went against what everyone suggested so its like he was more interested in a "deal" than getting something that actually fit my style and personality. I'm very outdoorsy, we ride horses, I have dogs and shoot guns, etc...

Talk to him

Thats good to hear! Glad hes looking into insurance.

I can understand that. My FH knew what was my style and what wasnt, what stone shape I preferred and what I hated, (I personally am also not a huge fan of halo rings). Its also a possibility that he wanted to get you a large and dramatic ring but maybe wouldnt have had the money to do so if he went to a jeweler, (I know its not an excuse for not taking the other factors into consideration, I'm just trying to offer a possible reason). Again, talk to him. As Rebekah stated, you could upgrade but lying to him when you are this unhappy could be worse in the long run.

If you don't like the ring. There should be no reason for you to wear it. I would tell him straight up. Its not like you are ungrateful, its just that you prefer something else.

Sit your FH down and tell him that you really appreciate his efforts and you do love the ring, but not as an engagement ring. You have something else in mind and you would like to trade it in and get exactly what you wanted.

Be completely honest, understanding and reasonable.

Since he already knew what you wanted and he went against that, he should already know that this may be coming.

There's no need to lie, beat around the bush or whatever. It is what it is. Fix the issue, and move on.

I promise that in your case, honestly is the best policy.

You're going to have to endure worse disagreements during your marriage. This one shouldn't be that bad

He is extremely frugal, which I am fine with. I am too (maybe less so than him, but still). He is also adamently against diamond rings, which is why *I* think he went the CL route. He says they're ridiculous, that diamonds aren't rare at all, that its society's silly standard, theres a huge markup, etc. I'm very rationale, so I understand what he means, but he knows I did want a ring and thats why he (perhaps begrudgingly) bought one. He asked if I'd rather have an "engagement horse" haha. He has also informed me I "have a motorcyle sitting on my finger". So I'm not getting the impression this ring is a symbol of his love and commitment to me. I had suggested we look at rings, but I think he had already purchased this one and was just waiting for a time to propose. I have no idea why he didn't listen to my friend and sister, I'm assuming because his frugality and dislike of the diamond industry was stronger than their opinions, I have no idea.

Is this for real?