Hi everyone,
So I wanted to start out by saying, my wedding is being planned in the span of 8 months. I'm now down to the 3 month mark (wedding is August 10th). I am scrambling around trying to get everything done including getting my dress and bridesmaid dresses. Over the weekend my bridesmaids and I went to David's bridal for fittings. They found their dresses very quickly, everyone tried them on and they are able to order them in my colors and will have them by June. I was up next. I tried on about 5-6 different dresses. My wedding is outdoors and its a rustic theme, so there's nothing too fancy about it. I didn't want an over fancy dress or a blinged out dress. Over the course of a few years I went from a size 3-4 at 125lbs to a now size 18 at 178lbs and I have to say that I was just mortified trying on these dresses. I was at 195 when we started planning, so I was able to lose a few pounds before the fitting-that I kept putting off until I lost more weight. But the time is here and I just thought I would be happier. I wanted to cry and just hide in a hole. To top it off the lady who was supposed to help was no where to be found so I had to hoist my dresses up and hold them in the back because they didn't have my size-instead of her using the clips or helping me. Plus there was no mirror in the dressing room, just one on the platform where you have to go and stand on where your bridesmaids and seven other parties are all crammed in together so all eyes were on me. It was such a horrific experience and it left me very discouraged. I know This process is stressful, but I don't wear dresses to begin with so even getting in one is uncomfortable. I do not like the way I look and I know its not supposed to be all about how you look, but in a way, it kind of is. I decided not to purchase anything because I just couldn't see it, and I didn't like the way the dresses were fitting. So I left empty handed. I hopped on Amazon and found a beautiful dress with about 200 reviews from women of all sizes who said they loved the dress. It's exactly what I was looking for, an empire waist to hide all of the imperfections. The problem was, they did not have my size in the 18, but had an 18 W. I decided to order it, because it has a built in corset and I'm praying I can find someone to bring it in slightly if needed. I guess I just came here to vent about my experience in hopes of hearing from other women who have been through a similar situation. I think it's hard to love your body as it is, but especially with gaining so much weight and knowing what I used to look like its hard. How have you ladies coped? Any advice would be appreciated.
