I don't know who will walk me down the aisle

This is such a personal choice. You don't need to be "given away". It's totally optional to be escorted down the aisle. If you would like someone to walk with you, perhaps you could ask both your father and your mom's boyfriend?

You do what you feel is right in your heart. I haven't talked to my biological father in years. I plan to have my dad (the man who raised me) and my mom give me away (even tho they're divorced, he's still my dad)

We can't help you make your choice. This is only a decision that YOU can make. It's whatever you're comfortable with. But If you're that worried about hurt feelings, you can walk alone OR have them both walk you down the aisle. I've seen them both be done and it's beautiful either way.

If that was me, i would honestly chose the mothers boyfriend since he has been more of a father figure to you in the past 11 uears. You clearly state that you talk to your real dad barely once a month....but thats my opinion and what i would do. Do what makes you happy!

I'm just not sure. It's so hard. My dad just seems like he doesn't care about the wedding. When I bring it up to him he's asking questions like "are you serious about him" or "are you sure he's the one". I think he just doesn't like my fiancé personally. I rather only have one walk me down. But I just don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

Honestly, I was in this position only I had to make a decision between my grandpa and my dad. I ended up choosing my dad because even though he's not perfect and there was a lot of tension between us, I knew it was the most honoring decision. He's my dad for a reason and if I were to ever have a good relationship with him in the future I think that I would have regretted not giving him the opportunity to walk me down the aisle.

Ultimately it's up to you. My dad passed away when I was in college. When I thought about potential people to walk with (I also thought about walking alone) the only person that made sense was my mom. The way I thought about was who's the last person I'd want to hug before getting married? Don't pick someone if the only reason is you think their feelings might get hurt if you didn't. You can also always have more than one person or walk alone. Good luck deciding!

Well, I wouldn't say that. My father (who adores my fiancé) asks me those same questions. Marriage is a big commitment, maybe he just wants to make sure you're ready for it. Especially if your father has been divorced before.

Like I said above, do what you're more comfortable with. Feelings will probably be hurt either way, but it'll be ok.

Ask your mother. She's been a constant in your life. And there would be less of a chance your father would object.

I post this almost every day. You don't need a male relative, to walk you down the aisle. The origins of that are sexist and archaic ; it alludes to transferring property.

Both of my parents walked down the aisle with me, which has become the norm in our family/social circle. I wouldn't have had it any other way. If one of them couldn't have done it I would have asked my grandmother or sister. (And yes, we have a lot of strong, independent women, in our family).

There is nothing wrong with asking mom to walk you down or walking alone. A other idea is, depending on the aisle you have to walk, start with your father and add in your mom's boyfriend half way down

The questions your dad asked are usually out of concern and care. I would take that as a suggestion and opportunity to have your dad and FH get to know each other better. It's repeated on WW over and over, but no one will care as much about your wedding as you do and it's hard for others to maintain excitement for long periods of time.

Also, OP, you have nearly a year to figure this out. It's really not something to stress about right now. Relax, think about it over some time, and make a decision closer to the date.

My friend who got married a month ago walked alone. Both my dad and stepdad will be at my wedding and my brother will be walking me down.

I have a different but similar issue. My father passed away in 2004, my mother is in a wheelchair and trying to figure out if she and I should come together. However, that would mean someone else would have to push her wheelchair. I have also thought about just going alone and using one of my father's favorite songs as my music.

Do what is in your heart is what I say.

Yes, ask your mother! I asked my grandfather to walk with me (for support, not to give me away) as a way of honoring him as the father figure in my life, and asked my mother to do a mother-daughter dance. Consider honoring the people who have been there and continue to be there since day one.

Who says anyone has to your self sufficient you can do it