i don't know what to do?

Is your worry that your FH's family would say something disrespectful to your other wedding guests for being gay? Are they openly hateful towards homosexuality or is it more of a religion thing where they just don't agree with it? If it's the latter, I would hope that adults would be able to conduct themselves without being rude towards someone different than them. If it's the former, I would make it extremely clear to them that some of the people on your guest lists are gay and that if they have an issue with it, they do not have to attend. If they do attend the wedding, they need to be aware that rude comments/looks will not be tolerated in the slightest. I would hope you're not considering not inviting your gay friends/family just to appease hateful people.

My worry is from my future husband side of the family, it's a religion thing for them. Over where they use to live in Jamaica if word get's back that they were associated with any "gay" type behavior they will be frowned upon when they visit and people will harm them. So they just try to keep their distance.

Yea that's true! I just am lost for how things would go because I suffer from really bad anxiety and depression and I would hate for things to get ugly at my wedding. Or for me to be on edge the whole ceremony and reception because i'm waiting for things to get ugly.

I completely understand the concept of religious differences. But as adults, they should be able to attend an event with others who may or may not share the same beliefs as they do. I don't see how attending a wedding where there are guests who are gay would qualify as associating with "gay type behavior". I also don't see how word about this would even get back to Jamaica unless your FH's family were to tell them outright.

If you're really concerned about this, there just needs to be a conversation with your FH's family (probably be best coming from your FH). As long as they aren't hateful people, there shouldn't be a problem with them being in the same room with someone who's gay. My FH is religious and his religion teaches that homosexuality is a sin, but we just recently attended the wedding of a friend of ours where there were two brides. This couple is also invited to our wedding where there will be very religious people from both sides of our families, but who we assume can act like respectful adults. I realize this is may be a touchy subject, but there's a HUGE difference between having different beliefs than others (and being respectful of that) and being hateful towards others.

Yea, I would hope that everyone would be an adult about the situation but with me having anxiety i'm just on edge to see how everything actually goes. My FH has family that will be traveling from Jamaica to attend the wedding. When I say associating with "gay type behavior" I mean being around people that are gay. I think that having the conversation would be good but the more I think about it I just feel that a courthouse wedding would be more appropriate!