So I got engaged about a month ago and am looking into pricing of things. My FH set a budget and so far all the places are already exceeding it (with an estimated 200 people). He said we could cut the list, but I don’t see us being able to cut that much because we both have large families.
I threw out the idea of a destination wedding, but he said that his closest friends wouldn’t be able to go due to having kids and how much it would cost them.
So I mentioned eloping in Hawaii and he was cool with that idea, but at the same time I would want my immediate family there, which he agreed on but then doesn’t that bring us back to a destination wedding?
I don’t know if he’d really want that or just saying it to save money. I also don’t want to spend a lot because I’d rather use it towards student loans , traveling, or a home. so I get where he’s coming from but I feel so overwhelmed because my family is planning on this major event (I’m the first one getting married) so I don’t want to upset them but I’m at a loss.
I don’t know my mom also has a fear of flying so if we did do a destination wedding she would most likely not go.
Everyone also says its a magical night and you only get married once. I get that but the pricing on things and the stress of meeting everyone’s wants (which I know I shouldn’t do) is confusing me on everyone.
Also, we both talked about him getting me a really nice engagement ring instead of putting that money towards the wedding. We both agreed that the ring is something I would have forever and symbolizing his love for me yatta yatta.
What do you think ?
anyone else feel the same way?
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