i dont know what to do

The only things I’ve seen a registry listed on are bridal shower invitations and wedding websites. No announcements, save the dates, or invitations have included a registry.

I sent my save the dates with my wedding website, and the registry is on the website

Nope. Shower invitations and wedding website only.

View Quoted Comment But if the website already has it on there than what's the difference if I send a registry card along with it instead of the website?

We announced part of it on Facebook

I think the best way to go about that, as the previous person mentioned, create a wedding website with the registry info included and add the url on your save the dates. Sending out registry info on anything other than a shower invite may come across the wrong way to your guests.

View Quoted Comment Because if it’s included as a card it looks like you’re asking for gifts. Listing the website, which usually includes info on the event and hotels as well, isn’t the same thing.

Are you inviting everyone who receives and engagement announcement to the wedding as well? I’ve never received an engagement announcement. But I think if I did and it included wedding website and registry info I’d be expecting to be invited to the wedding as well. (Note, I have been invited to engagement parties - where I brought a gift - and then not to the wedding, super rude. So my opinion might be a bit biased/scarred 😂)

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Agree with this completely. Especially if you're actually sending "engagement announcements" (which are pretty unusual, do you mean save-the-dates?). To send an announcement with registry info may make it very likely recipients view that as, "I got engaged -- now buy me something!", which won't make you look good. It's fine to include your website (if it actually contains important info for them to know about the wedding -- and anyone receiving an announcement/STD should be on the final wedding guest list). If by chance people want to get you a gift, even without an official announcement or STD, most people know to search online to see if there's a registry, but engagements aren't typically gift giving occasions (maybe a bottle of wine or a picture frame, but not, "wow, I need a big gift for this!"). This is one of those etiquette things that it's important to know so you don't accidentally come across as greedy when you really just want to make those who will be invited to your wedding aware of your engagement/wedding date. Good luck!

Your registry shouldn’t be mentioned anywhere on announcements or invitations. I guess I’m confused about why you already have a registry if you’re just now announcing your engagement?

It’s not uncommon that people bring gifts to engagement parties. We got quite a few ourselves. Registries only belong on your wedding website, though, since gifts are not actually required. Use word of mouth too, let your families and bridal party know where you’re registered, so if people ask, they can direct them.

View Quoted Comment Yes they are all invited to the wedding and celebrations .

Individual engagement announcements aren't a thing; engagement announcements are posted in communal sources like newspapers. Individual announcements are for marriage announcements, which are sent right after the wedding. You shouldn't directly advertise your registry in anything you send before the wedding (and definitely not after the wedding), but as PPs mentioned you can include your website and your website can have a registry page.

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I agree with this.

Engagement parties are not gift giving occasions. . . For anything, birthdays, graduations, anniversaries, engagements it weddings: you never send an invitation which mentions gifts, in any place, in any way. No registry links. Registries are a suggestion list for people already looking for ideas to give a gift. You never send any invitation for yourself (or spouse) which says, come to my party, and here are suggestions of gifts to buy me . . . Shower invitations are different because different people host them. So they are not asking for themselves. Asking to honor others is okay . . . Showers are given usually in the last 3 months, sometimes 4 to avoid a holiday. Wedding gifts are sent in the last 4 months, or after the wedding. Doing a registry, okay. People will not look til they need to. But don't put a link to it on anything including your website until the last 7 months or less. Telling people about gifts you suggest for yourself even 9-10 months in advance looks like you are greedy for gifts. Anyone wanting to shop from a registry before that can look it up themselves. Or call and ask you or family, with the overture from them. But for you to even put it out there months in advance of need, at engagement time, looks pushy. The first things a person should hear about, are the good news that you are engaged. Then about the wedding. Gifts need not be mentioned or referred to on your website until much closer to the event .