I dont care about TRADITIONS!!.........do you????

I care about the traditions that I care about but I generally couldn't care less what traditions other people decide to incorporate or not incorporate.

Do what you want is the simple answer.

I think people personalize weddings and it's an easy thing to have an opinion on. The best solution is to just limit access to the ability people have to give their opinion by not talking about it. Change the subject. Or just start asking them questions "oh did you father do it? Cool! I bet you got a lot of pictures. Do you have any that I can look at?"

We did away with a lot of traditions. I didn't want anyone walking me because I have always been an independent soul. I have been living on my own for over 20 years. The tradition of walking the bride down the aisle I think goes back to when they had arranged marriages and the father transferred the bride over to her groom to be taken care of. It doesn't make sense in a modern world. Unless, the bride is still at home - is close with her dad. Yet, my aunt insisted (my dad is deceased) that my uncle walk me down. They traveled far, far, far out of state, in the deep south to come see me when I was born (I was a military baby), so I didn't have the heart to decline their offer. I figure I will be really nervous walking alone (I'm not one for being the center of attention), so in that regard it will be nice. Otherwise, no, it didn't matter if I had someone walking me down the aisle.

No. Do whatever you want. Its your wedding. Quite a few people walk down the aisle alone. Others walk down with two people.

The whole traditions thing makes me cringe when people ask. I refuse to do the garter toss and we aren't having a bridal party

I'm walking alone. My father is the only person I'd have ever wanted to do that, and he died in 2006 so that isn't a option. Also, no replacement father-daughter dance. I'm not doing any kind of tribute either, though. Some people like doing these at their weddings, but I don't really want to go there on that day. Many traditions don't make sense to me and I think culturally, we've forgotten the reasons for doing certain things (for luck, prosperous life, etc.) I'm not lighting a unity candle or pouring sand. I'm not throwing my bouquet or doing a garter toss. We aren't doing the chicken dance or the macarena.

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What is tradition, anyway? Decades ago, it was an alleged virgin getting married in her hometown in a church or temple. As the years have passed, women are now living with their FHs long before they marry them -- some sharing children and mortgages before they sign the marriage license. Decades ago, women got one shot at a big white wedding. A second wedding was a far more low key affair, and a white gown and veil? No -- it didn't really happen much. Today, a woman who was married ten years ago, divorced, and planning another marriage is free to do a second big white wedding. Most people are absolutely fine with that.

Today, people get married on top of mountains, on the beach, in the woods, at the venue, on family or rented property, and sometimes they get married in a church or temple. There are those who fly thousands of miles away to get married in an exotic location -- hence, the destination wedding.

Tradition changes as society changes. It is perfectly acceptable for a woman of any age to walk down the aisle herself. Years ago, her father was always on her arm, and if he had passed, there was an uncle or another older man taking his place. Now? We have bio-dads and step-dads sharing the honor, brothers escorting the bride, sons escorting the bride, mothers escorting the bride, daughters escorting the bride, the couple walking the aisle together, and the bride walking alone. You get it, right? You are free to walk alone. If that's your choice, no explanation is needed. Hold your head high and don't walk too fast if you want it to look good (it should feel like you're walking too slow, lol).

We are doing the traditional things we like and tossing the ones we don't. I think in terms of these things, you really can say "it's our wedding, let's do what works for us". Guests might think it's strange if you skip some traditional thing that they like, but no one will be offended. Your family/friends might try to persuade you to keep things, but just be firm in your decision or don't discuss it with anyone.

Centerpiece... NAILED it...

Walk alone. It will be beautiful regardless.

Do whatever you want; I've had brides (and grooms) walk down by themselves, with their kids, moms, grandmas and even their fiances.

Keep the tradtions you want, throw out the ones you don't, create new ones if you like!

Yes do what feels right to you. It's your special day, own it. I know it does get annoying when people are trying to push 'traditions' on you. I got some comments and weird looks when I said my daughter was walking me down the aisle. Even though it's not traditional it's the only thing that felt right for me.

We got a lot of comments when we said we were doing a first look and pre-ceremony pictures. FHs family really wanted to see "the look on his face" when he saw me for the first time. They also don't like us spending the night before the wedding together. It's what works for us though.

If you want to walk down the aisle on your own go for it and own it!

We're throwing out a lot of traditions. My uncle is walking me down the aisle only because my mom (his sister) mentioned he was hurt that I didn't ask him the first time (my mom walked me, but he did the father/daughter dance). We are having a non-religious ceremony. No bouquet toss, garter toss or wedding cake at the reception. Just basically dinner and a party.

Tradition is the way things have always been done, doesn't mean you have to. It's not always right either. I'm pretty sure you aren't being purchased for a cow, 3 chicken, and 4 rolls of silk. Do what you want.

You don't have to have anyone walk you down the aisle, but me personally wouldn't get married without my dad present. I wouldn't have a destination wedding.

Not sure but ppl are going to tell you that "bc its tradition" bc they probably dont want to tell you what they honestly think. for most ppl a wedding without your sick father is a deal breaker. Sounds harsh but seems a little mean of you. IDK your rship with your dad but .... If he is truly sick why won't you want him there. even if he is walking you are not.

FFW is right, you do sound harsh and mean.

I love the traditions of my family, so I care a lot about them. That being said, if there wasn't one that I liked or felt comfortable with I would ditch them. People in my family usually have head tables, so they were pretty shocked that we're doing a sweetheart table... Not sure how "traditional" that is though.

If you don't want anyone walking you down the aisle, I think you should do it alone. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that! I completely understand your reasoning.

I'm choosing to walk alone and no dollar dance either.

It's YOUR day do what you want..if your father can't attend and no one in your heart takes his place...walk by yourself!!! Who cares what ppl think, it's not their day. My mom will be walking me down the aisle bc she is my dad and I'm sure ppl will think that is weird...but I don't care! It's my day! Don't listen to ppl on that kind of stuff!