i didn’t write thank you cards from my bridal shower

I agree with PPs. You're still needing time to heal. Anyone with a heart should cut you some slack in this case

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm with everyone else on the thank you cards - just forget it - the people at your shower know about your loss.

As far as having lost a parent - my dad passed about 6 years before my wedding and 6 months before my brother's. You're going to need to let yourself feel how you feel. There will be happy moments and sad moments - unfortunately, you are probably not going to have a "happy" all the time. Allow yourself your tears - even on your wedding day (waterproof makeup is your friend). Bring something with you down the aisle that reminds you of her (I wore a locket with my dad's picture in it, so he could "walk with me" down the aisle). Most of all, just do what you can stand to do - don't force yourself to do "what you ought to do." A lot of people will recommend an empty chair - we couldn't stand that as an idea - all it would have done for us would have been to make it worse. Good luck and blessings in everything.

I'm so sorry about your mom's passing. I'm usually a pretty staunch "get those thank-yous out on time" type, but in your situation, I'd NEVER think twice about it if I didn't ever receive a thank-you. I think there are a few things that trump thank-you note etiquette and your situation is definitely one of them. You've been through so much it's a wonder you're still standing at this point. Take the best care of yourself as you can, deal with what you absolutely have to on the estate, and let those who love you do as much as they can/are willing to to help you find the little moments of joy where you can. I was my parents' executor, and, honestly, I was just numb for a long time -- 6 months at least -- following both their passings. I'm very type-A, so my go-to when stressed is to go blindly into "productive mode": holding meetings, checking things off lists, one-foot-in-front-of-the-other, but I think that prolongs the grieving process. Sincere condolences to you and your family; you are in my thoughts & prayers.

I'm guessing anyone who was at your shower knows what happened and understand. I wouldn't worry about it right now with the wedding so close. Sure you may have some who judge, but the ones who really matter understand.

In my opinion? Anyone worried about not recieving a thank you note in this time is being butt hurt. You have family stuff going on. Don't worry about the thank yous! Focus on getting up in the morning. And I'm so sorry you're going through this

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I do think you should send separate thank you cards. If you take just an hour or two you should be able to get them all done quickly. They don't need to be extensive, but I do think that it would be polite to send a quick TY to the people who took time to be with you and get you a gift.