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Just Said Yes August 2022

i did it ! I’m married him and I’m over it !

Lewenski, on September 19, 2022 at 9:01 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7
I went ahead and married my fiancé and so far it’s already been a nightmare. The same issues are surfacing times 10 and I’m emotionally and mentally drained. He is always complaint about how he does everything and help everyone and no one helps him. Everytime he feels like that I’m included and a lot of the anger or pain he feels is poured onto me. I try to do everything I can to help him. I lost my job this year and the jobs I’ve had after either financially didn’t help or schedules had him feeling stressed and although he hasn’t had to pick up any of my monthly bills he’s helped me with emergency expenses like when my car broke down and he hasn’t let me forget it. He brings it up every chance he gets. I’m also a full time student and I have a daughter. My husband is 15 years order than me and his expectations and past hurt and pain are becoming unbearable. He also voiced how much he doesn’t want this even before we got married and that really hurt me. I finally snapped because I am tired. I no longer want to talk or try I want to be alone.

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Latest activity by S Mau, on September 21, 2022 at 11:18 PM
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    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I saw you were having doubts before the wedding so I'm confused why you proceeded with marrying it. It sounds like he is a very difficult person to deal with. I never would've suggested marrying this person.
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    Just Said Yes August 2022
    Lewenski ·
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    I think I did it for my daughter honestly. He’s the only father figure she knows and loves him so much. That hurt me even more because I feel like I’ve trapped myself and can’t get away without hurting her.
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    Veronica ·
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    Yikes! Have you considered marriage counseling? If he would even be willing to do something like that which my guess is that he won't based on how you have described him.
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  • Cece
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    Cece Online ·
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    Unfortunately, I think you knew marrying this person wasn’t a wise idea; and your gut feeling was correct. This relationship does not sound like a healthy one, and I would never want my daughter to view that as the model of what she should accept.
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  • Gloria
    Savvy September 2023
    Gloria ·
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    It sounds like he has unresolved issues. Definitely consider counseling. If you married for your daughter this will not be positive for her if you're unhappy and theres marital problems. Have you communicated your feelings to him about how he makes you feel? I'm sorry you're going through this. Please reach out to friends, family, a support group, counselor if you need help or someone talk to.
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  • Jacks
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    Jacks ·
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    I think it will hurt her more in the long run to watch your twist yourself into a pretzel to keep this man happy. It sounds like he's using you as a container for his anger. Is this what you really want for your life?

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  • S Mau
    Savvy October 2022
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    Definitely don’t set this standard as normal for your daughter. She loves an idea of him that you know isn’t true to how he really is and acts. It may hurt her now, but getting out doing good and then finding a healthy stable relationship to show her would be more beneficial
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