i could use some advice! To plan for smaller wedding because of covid? Or wait it out?

First of all, take a few deep breaths. Just know that everything will be okay. I completely understand your anxiety . . . and my wedding isn't until January. However, it is scheduled in New Orleans (a hot spot), so I've had all kind of questions running through my head. I made myself sit down and develop a timeline and a game plan based on that timeline. I went through all of my vendor contracts to determine what the cancellation policies and penalties are. I also figured out what was the absolute latest date to cancel my current plans per the contracts and required guest notifications. Once I developed my timeline, I knew when I needed to make decisions. Once I had that information and determine how much money I was willing to or could lose from lost deposits, I determined what my Plans B and C would be -- smaller wedding? Different location? etc. Once I did that exercise, I began to feel much better. I didn't feel like I was floundering in the wind. No one knows what tomorrow holds . . . much less August or January. But one thought I am comforted by is that either way, we'll have our men by your side and everything will work out just the way it's supposed to. I'm a big believer in everything turns out as it should be. I wish you well and good luck! You got this!

Thank you! That is such a helpful reply. I will sit down and take a close look at my contracts.

Wishing you the best!

You're very welcome!

Sharonda is wise.

This is so difficult for everyone. You may not really know what's going on for August until it gets a lot closer. If it's at all possible to postpone decision-making for a bit, do so!

Please know you're not alone.

We decided to cancel our May 3rd wedding and have not yet decided on a new date! I am REALLY hoping for August, but truthfully I do not want to get my hopes up because I don't want to be let down again. I am trying to take it day by day and hopefully wait until mid May to make a decision on if we will move to August. With our second wedding plan, we plan on cutting our guest list from 100+ to about 40-50 people. I am hoping that we can even have that many! Girl, when you said "I am trying to make the best of the situation and let go of my preconceived ideas of what our wedding would be like." I felt that!!!! I am slowly having to get over the fact that my "dream" wedding isn't going to happen, but at this point I am just hoping I can have some smaller version of what I originally wanted, and if not I need to remember that I get to marry my guy and we get to spend forever together. Another thing that has helped me through is remembering that yes, you only get one wedding, but there will be so many more milestones in the relationship to celebrate and look forward to like starting a family, anniversaries, vacations etc. The uncertainty of all of this is driving me crazy too, that is honestly the worst part! I would feel a lot better if someone could tell me when everyone would be back to normal and tell me when I for sure can have my wedding! Hang in there! I do find some comfort in knowing that I am not alone in this situation!

Sharonda said it best!

I would not give up on your current dream wedding. August is still a ways away and things could change (in your favor) between now and then. I would do as Sharonda suggested and make a timeline of the latest you could cancel your current plans, while also having your plan B.

I am very sorry that you are going through this. Wedding planning should be a fun, exciting time and I hate that it has turned in to a time of stress for you. Try to relax and enjoy what bit you can. In the end, you will get to marry your best friend, which is really what it is all about. Good luck, Molly!