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i can’t win at wedding planning

Sarah, on February 5, 2020 at 11:13 PM Posted in Planning 0 10

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I swear I feel like either I am not supposed to get married or there are a whole bunch of hoops I have to jump through. So my fiancé and I where happy with the wedding date we choose (third wedding date). Of course my brothers deployment is extended longer, so after long talks with my fiancé and my brother, we decided to keep the wedding date instead of changing it for the fourth time. Lone and behold, found out today my cousin is pregnant and due around my wedding date. So that means (besides getting another cake maker, she was making our wedding cake), half of my family will be with her and the new baby instead of at the wedding celebrating with my fiancé and I. The months leading up to it will be filled with baby showers and gender reveal parties instead of a bridal shower. I feel like now my wedding has taken a back burner to this. Any suggestions? I am guessing change the date for a fourth time? What would you guys do?

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Desiden · on February 5, 2020 at 11:23 PM
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Hmm this is pretty tricky... I mean you did have the date set first and everything else planned first... It would be kinda messed up to me if everyone cancelled on you, I would talk to her and work out something with her to make sure no one plans something on the same day?
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Melle · on February 5, 2020 at 11:53 PM
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I think people would be able to tend to your pre wedding events and her pre baby events. I don't think I'd change your date for a fourth time. That was already a lot. Basically I'm saying life happens ya know? Even if you changed the date, who is to say another family member also wouldn't get married or have a baby or whatever by then too? Do what's best for your own schedule
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Sarah · on February 6, 2020 at 12:06 AM
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Remember; everyone cares about you and your wedding, and everyone cares about your cousin and her baby, but mostly everybody just cares about their own life. They're happy for both of you and will be there for both of y'all, and will continue to live their own lives.
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Sylessia · on February 6, 2020 at 12:31 AM
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Why would half of your family be with her? Even if she had the baby on the same day as your wedding only so many people can visit the hospital at a time. Don’t change your date just continue to move forward.
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Trinity · on February 6, 2020 at 7:58 AM
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If you haven't booked the venue, you can change the date. Idk how many guests you are expecting, but remember you can't please everyone. Something will come up when you choose the fourth date, just stick with it.
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Hannah · on February 6, 2020 at 10:52 AM
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People can celebrate more than one milestone event within a span of time (as long as they aren't on the same day). I've gone to showers and weddings for different people within close amounts of time. Heck, I've gone to 2 separate weddings a week apart. Hurts your wallet, but it is what it is. Yes, she may have parties celebrating the pregnancy. As long as these things aren't all overlapping in terms of the same exact day/weekend, then I don't see why your family can't be excited for both milestones. People can provide love and support and excitement for multiple people at one time! I know you've been going through a lot based on your posts but just try to take a step back and breathe.
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Taylor · on February 6, 2020 at 11:15 AM
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I think it would be incredibly rude to miss your wedding over a newborn. Unless they're immediate family (husband and their parents), peoples lives don't stop for a new baby. They'll go to the hospital (maybe), bring flowers, hold the baby for a little bit, and leave. This should not hinder their ability to come to your wedding. Your cousin having a baby shower and gender reveal party should also have no affect on your bridal shower or Bachelorette party. There are TONS of days and weekends to choose from for these things. Just because she's having a baby doesn't mean everything is centered around her for the next 9 months. I would not change the date.
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Danielle · on February 6, 2020 at 11:36 AM
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Your cousins having a baby and your getting married. That would mean lots of partying in my family. To kinda demand everyone's attention is not needed, share the love with ya cousin.
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Chelsea · on February 6, 2020 at 11:40 AM
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I wouldnt change anything. This is about you and your fiance. If they care enough they will come. You get a a day not a year. Other people cant stop life because your getting married. Im sorry not trying to make this sound rude or mean. Just you get a day and thats that. If they care they will come.
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Jodie · on February 6, 2020 at 11:50 AM
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You will never be able to accommodate everyone. Keep planning for your current date. If people can come, they will come. If not, there's really not a lot you can do.
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