I can't go to a no kids wedding because I have a kid and it's out of state. She's 2, so finding childcare is very challenging. I am not making any "special request" for my kid to be in the wedding. I simply rsvp'ed "will not attend" as soon as I found out I couldn't. It's about 2 months before her deadline of March 1st with a wedding date of April 18th. My fiance can't attend because of school. I bought her a $60 gift off her registry and sent a message of best wishes and congratulations. It's my fh cousin who I don't know very well (I have met her 3 times total and all I can say is she's nice). Money is tight because I am getting married in less than 40 days. Am I wrong on any of this? I don't have any ill will towards this person and I have a tendency to overthink things.
Nope, none of this sounds rude at all. People who have adults only weddings understand that means there is the potential for those with children to decline. I would say you were more than generous by immediately RSVP’ing, sending well wishes to the couple, and sending them a gift even though you will not be attending the wedding.
No, this isn't rude of you. Normally when you decide to have a wedding without children you know that some people may might be able to attend because they have children. We had an adults only reception and my husband's uncle didn't come because it was his weekend with his children. His ex-wife wasn't willing to let him switch weekends so he couldn't attend.
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I was worried I being rude or cheap.
She picked her date first (I think 2 years ago) and my fiance picked our date 2nd (He wanted on the day he proposed (valentine's day and I decided it wasn't bad / easy solution). I am already really socially awkward. She's invited to mine which just really makes me over think this.
Look different people choose their weddings for what is best for them as well as wedding related events. You do not have to go but you did the proper thing and let the person know plus gave a gift. People decline at weddings all the time; plus it is another state not down the street so that is definitely logical.
Nothing wrong with this. You guys can’t make it. I think it’s super sweet you still sent a gift even though you can’t attend.
As others have said, you are definitely overthinking this. You are allowed to decline any invitation, and because they are not allowing children, they know they will get declines from others as well. It was very generous of you to purchase them a gift from their registry and I do believe they will understand completely that you cannot attend. Best of luck with your upcoming wedding!