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hopingwaiting
Savvy May 2020

i bought the dress i loved but now i kinda hate it

hopingwaiting, on May 8, 2019 at 1:10 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 17

I had done my research and knew exactly what I wanted. I tried on a bunch of other dresses at 3 other shops (not all in the same day!) and thought for sure this was the one! I was so excited I nearly fainted and I paid for it right then and there. It was a sample, so all sales final. When I got in the car, I looked at the pictures my friend took, and I noticed some aspects of the dress that I didn't notice in the shop. The back was much higher than I thought it was. Plus, I didn't notice in the store, but it's a zipper shoes from behind the buttons. AND I guess I have back fat LOL (so not worried about it, just funny.) I convinced myself that I could add straps, but now when I look online to search photos of straps added to a sweetheart ....and they all still look like strapless dresses, but with straps added! Also, I failed to notice that the bodice was slightly see-through. In person you can't tell, but in photos it makes me look cut in half. I think that can be fixed with a lining, but still not sure how that will look. When I got home, I noticed some of the beading is missing or loose, I should have knows as it was a sample. Also, in person I think the skirt fabric looks crisp and luxurious, but in the photos it looks stiff and heavy - and I feel like the beading on the bodice makes the dress look cheap.

I guess I got so caught up in emotion I was not thinking of the details! I know you all going to tell me it's beautiful and I'm crazy. Has anyone else gone through buyers remorse? I will say that the upside is that the dress was originally $1,950 but half off at $975, so I feel like making changes is going to cost more than the dress. Princess problems! But seriously, anyone had any of the following alterations: straps added, lining added, beading restitched. How much did it cost? Thanks ladies!

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17 Comments

Latest activity by Alla, on February 6, 2020 at 9:39 PM
  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    It’s a beautiful dress, and I think that all the alterations you want should be able to be done fairly easily. I can’t give you a guess on the cost, as I haven’t gotten a dress yet, but I think that’s pretty basic stuff. Remember, once it’s altered to fit your body, it is going to sit perfectly on you. So I think that alone is going to ease some of your worries.
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  • Grace
    Expert June 2019
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    I love that skirt! It’s very different. Also you are the only one that will notice “back fat” lol everyone thinks that about themselves. I don’t have an estimate for the alterations but I don’t think they should cost more than the dress! I think the straps that are like tulle that come around the side of your shoulder would be really pretty on this dress!
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  • C
    Super January 2020
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    This dress is gorgeous, so much beautiful detail. I’m not sure about the cost of alterations but would suggest just going to talk to a seamstress to see what your options are for adding straps.
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  • Katie
    Devoted November 2020
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    You look beautiful!!! The dress is stunning. What I have been doing to avoid buyers remorse is I deleted all the pictures on my phone of my dress and havent been looking at it constantly. The more you stare at something the more you'll find wrong with it or that new Effect wears off. I have a long time before my wedding and I want my dress to feel as beautiful and brand new as the day I bought it and I think I'll have no issue with that!
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  • Alisha
    VIP April 2021
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    That is a gorgeous dress. I don’t know how much alterations will cost but you can take it to a seamstress or someone who have experience in doing alterations to a dress.
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  • Becca
    Expert July 2019
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    Fixing beading is easy - they will just tie off the threads if they are loose. As for the "back fat", it looks like they had to pull it in with clips so it could just be that they had it too tight. In addition, in order to make the alterations in the waist, they would most likely have to take the zipper out anyway. You could easily put a different zipper in if you wanted however, like many dresses, zippers will just show. Because of the way it is pulled together, it amplifies this. As for straps, one of the things many brides make a mistake on is just attaching a strap vs inserting a strap. You just have to have them put it into the top of the dress between the lining and the outside vs just attaching on this inside. This will eliminate the "gap" you see in most strapless dress conversions. The key is that you LOVED it when you put it on and you will love it again when you put it on again. Pictures NEVER do it justice on a phone. I HATE the way mine looked in the original picture when I purchased it. I picked it up last week and couldn't stop beaming I loved it so much.

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  • Jennifer
    Expert October 2019
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    I think everyone else has covered most things, but what you probably want are straps that are shaped to blend in with the sweetheart. FWIW, if you add straps, and you need it fitted in the back anyway, they can remove the zipper and also lower the back. They can put in a new zipper, or a corset style back, if you like that (to get rid of the zipper). The beading is what can add up cost quickly. If it's loose beads that need to be tightened, that's one thing, but redoing missing beading can be a bit more work. All of that is done by hand. But the hem is perfect! Definitely talk to a seamstress before freaking out.
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  • hopingwaiting
    Savvy May 2020
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    Thank you all so much! I'm seriously need to invite all of you to my wedding Smiley smile You have such good points and insight. @Jeanie, good reminder about alterations to fit me perfectly. @Grace I KNOW RIGHT? The skirt is the part I fell in LOVE with. @Katie, I took your advice and deleted the photos, they do not do it justice. I also deleted the photos of other dresses I tried. It's like deleting all your ex-boyfriends after finding the one. @Becca and @Jennifer, both of you sound like you know what you are talking about. Thank you!

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    Savvy September 2019
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    I don’t know if it depends on where you purchase your wedding dress, I know for me because mine is off the rack and a couple sizes too big.. and I’m 5’1 and need a lot of hemming lol my alterations will cost about $700 highest price .. they had set pricing depending on what exactly needs to be done and I could do all the alterations you want in said set price.. I would talk with either the seamstress the bridal store provides or whomever you’re using to get an estimate.. I got my dress for half off too 👏🏽 It’s the bestttt!!! Lol it’s like a steal! What you want done doesn’t sound like it’ll be costly or more than the dresses worth or more... but I would recommend getting an estimate so you’re not getting duped ❤️
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  • Heather
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    Honestly, I think you really look beautiful in that dress. I think the dress is gorgeous. If you feel more comfortable with straps you can add them. Your alterations will cost more, but look at the bright side that you saved so much on the dress to begin with. And you DO NOT have back fat!!! By the way, if you really have your heart set on adding straps, did you maybe consider off the shoulder straps? They have my favorite and can be simple and not take away from your neckline, and not make it look like it is still strapless?

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  • hopingwaiting
    Savvy May 2020
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    You are all seriously wonderful humans! You have made me LOVE my dress. I think I was suffering from this being "final" and nervous if i had made the right choice. I am actually thinking that i won't add straps! I will add the liner in front to make the dress feel like one piece. I will leave it see through in back, though cuz it's sexy that way. All in all, I'm excited. I cannot WAIT to marry my best friend in this dress, cuz that's what it's all about anyway Smiley smile

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  • Stephanie
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    Everyone has covered pretty much everything I was going to add, but your dress is absolutely stunning! It is perfect.


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  • Allie
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    Your dress is fabulous, and you look amazing in it. I can't imagine changing anything about it. Smiley love

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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
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    Stop it. You look amazing.
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  • hopingwaiting
    Savvy May 2020
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    I love it now. I was acting crazy! I think I was doubting myself.
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  • Dana
    Just Said Yes July 2019
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    You look seriously gorgeous! The 'back fat' simply needs someone to smooth out after you put it on. If they put their hand into the middle and smooth to the sides, it will not look like that. Let a good seamstress talk about straps, you will be so happy with the wonders they can come up with!

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  • Alla
    Beginner August 2020
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    Hi there! If you already got married and got you pictures, please share some of them! I really want to see how this stunning dress looks in photos because I have kinda the same concern about the stiffness of my wedding dress. I love the lace pattern on yours, it reminds me of mine 😍

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