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i am trying my best here. i really am

Traci, on December 17, 2019 at 7:59 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

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I admit, I would give my shirt off my back for people. I sympathize for people. I am too nice.

My best is my MOH. We have been friends for 4 years. I love her like a mom. she was there for me through everything. So whenever a money situation happened, I helped out with not wanting in return. I helped get her a condo, Helped save her cat, helped get her a new tire for her car, ect ect. (5,000 in total) anyway.......

Today i listened to her vent because they were having money issues again and her husband yelled at her. (we are all like family) I'm usually the buffer with fights. So I texted her husband and said this. "I hope you two are well, Keep breathing. You two got this"

Let's just say I got my posterior handed to me.

I got yelled at. apparently that text caused him to start screaming again. I got so overwhelmed, that I turned off my phone. IDK if i was in the wrong. I threw my wedding money away sooo many times because I SYMPATHIZE. I got yelled at for caring. I am TIRED of the money problems. Everytime I hear her vent about it, I cant help but to help her or the venting wont stop! Ido sympathize. It just...gets allot........

I feel this whole money thing could have been AVOIDED if he would get his license, stop working for his CROOKED cousin (who STEALS HIS PAY) and get a better job.

I actually dont know what my point is.

I am sick of helping and then getting yelled at for a simple "breathe" text.

Yes I get that it wasnt my place to text that. But I was trying to help. I dont know. I had nowhere else to vent to.

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Latest activity by Traci, on December 18, 2019 at 1:17 PM

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Kristen · on December 17, 2019 at 9:19 PM
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Here's my personal opinion. Your heart is in the right place but realistically these are grown people that need to handle their own business. My mom was often too nice to family members that did not deserve her kindness or when she would ask for money back they would cuss her out. I'm only going to be sympathetic to people that are sympathetic to me. I know that she's your best friend and I'm glad that she's been there for you but her marriage is her marriage. Sadly we will often see our friends in unhealthy relationships but you and your friend discussing it is fine but I know that you were being helpful but at the end of the day a toxic person does not See that they are toxic. I agree that he needs to get himself together but I also agree that you realize that you say anything to him was not the best. I feel like you have your own life and your own wedding coming up and as hard as it may seem I think you may need to be a little bit selfish and focus on yourself and let them sort out their problems. She can come vent to you and you are going to be there to listen but let her handle her marriage. I don't feel like you should not anymore stress to your life.
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Traci · on December 17, 2019 at 9:55 PM
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Ok where to start. Ok...
#1. Congratulations on the wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is coming soon YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY woop woop
#2 I feel you should be a therapist or a counselor, because your advice just SHOOK me to my core. You are so right!!!!!!!!!!
I have invested my TIME and MONEY in it! your right I need to be more selfish and take care of me. I turned off my phone for the night to get some breathing space. Yes I will listen to venting, but the venting can also drain me because the venting gets to be allot as well.
Thank you Kristen for the advice. Your a good soul!
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Kristen · on December 17, 2019 at 10:24 PM
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My pleasure. Glad I can help. Good will bless you for being a good person. Hope everything gets better
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Traci · on December 17, 2019 at 10:48 PM
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May God bless you too.
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Ivy ORP · on December 18, 2019 at 9:23 AM
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I remember reading about the cat and how you helped her then. It is so kind of you to give, but you can't keep running on a tank that has been emptied into the tanks of others. As Kristen already said, you have to take care of you. You seem to have a big heart, but now you need to have a strong one and let them handle their own messes for a while. Good luck to you.
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Traci · on December 18, 2019 at 1:17 PM
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You two are so right. She shouldnt have dragged me in her marraige drama with 24/7 troubles. So i backed away from it all. Im done. Im sorry but i am. Im suffering for others your so right.
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