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Aida
Devoted May 2021

i am Not Throwing Away my Shot

Aida, on July 18, 2020 at 8:27 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 11
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Anyone seen Hamilton? It’s great! Anyways, I posted awhile ago on a post called “Rant” that went over my rant of my feelings and frustrations being a 2020 covid bride and having to possibly reschedule my wedding for a second time. Maybe you saw it, maybe you didn’t and that’s cool. Anyways here’s an update.


As of right now, with 41 days left until my supposed wedding, my county is at a halt and right now cannot accommodate to weddings AT ALL, unless stats changed drastically, my wedding coordinator suggested setting a plan C. Which I did, painfully, but he said to hold onto plan B, just in case. Well, my nurse practitioner friend, my family and my fiancé and his family all think this wedding isn’t happening in 41 days and told me that maybe it’ll be fine next year. It hurt hearing that. It hurts thinking that here I go again, reschedule and reschedule. One of my biggest resentments was not getting married last year.
My FH saw how painful this has been for me and offered to elope with me on the day of my plan B if we have to cancel it. I never wanted to elope. I know lots of couples do it and it’s perfectly normal. But it wasn’t what I wanted for myself. However, I missed out marrying him last year and now I’m thinking, “I am not throwing away my shot”. So I agreed to marry him next month. Be it at our big wedding or a courthouse thing and having a party next year. Also a big appeal is that we’re keeping it secret. No one knows. My friends and sister have not been the most supportive team so I saw no point in letting them know my plans. The only one who knows is my mom because we need a witness.
So there it is. I was sad at first. This wedding has been the only thing keeping me afloat during this pandemic, a lighthouse in a storm, but even if it’s cancelled, I won’t miss out on marrying my best friend. I still have some hope that we’ll have the wedding of our dreams someday.
Thanks for listening, good luck to the rest of you.

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Latest activity by Aida, on July 20, 2020 at 12:10 PM
  • Renee
    Super June 2020
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    Awwww I’m sorry. We are in the same boat. Postponing again on Monday. Oh well. We did marry on our original date so now we are going to try and knock out a baby in a years time 🤣 Good luck to you and whatever plan come to fruition I hope it’s amazing! You deserve it!
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  • Aimee
    Super July 2021
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    Sorry you’re part of the Covid brides. I had made up my mind we were getting this year. Got my license a month and a half before the wedding 07/11 and had a minimony and small reception for 15 guests. It turned out better than I could have wished for. If we’re allowed to have our vow renewal on our 1 year anniversary I will proceed.
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  • Christina
    Devoted July 2020
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    I’m sorry. But I todally feel you on the whole
    Light house in a storm. I’ve done everything in my power to make my wedding that is happening in five days magical. And I do feel like a bride and honestly I think this pandemic and curve ball is part of our love story. Us Covid brides are out here making lemonade with the Lemons that we have. I wish you the best ! Stay focus on making the day special !
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    That’s excellent!! We pandemic brides HAVE TO find some joy in all of this craziness and not allow it to kill our wedding vibes. We postponed from this October to next October. The reality sucked for a day, but I couldn’t let it keep me down and I feel super excited about our new date and have embraced the story behind it. So it’s nice to hear that you found the “lighthouse” in this storm.
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  • Laura
    Super September 2020
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    We let our guests know that we might be married at the time of our big wedding because if next June can't happen we aren't rescheduling. I'm on my sixth wedding date - but this one feels right. It will be just us and our sons - and that feels right too. Do I want the big wedding - yep! Have I made peace with it not happening - yep. It just takes time. My heart goes out to us all! Smiley heart

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  • L
    Expert September 2020
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    I feel you girl. Without typing out the whole thing, we had to cancel our wedding due to several reasons that were caused by our venue. I am a little relieved that I no longer have to deal with this (other than getting our money back) but the worst part about it is definitely realizing I will never have a real wedding with walking down the aisle and all of that.
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  • Taylor
    Dedicated October 2020
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    Good lick with everything not sure where you are located I am in Ohio somehow these wedding are happing like there is no covid well maybe a couple dance floors. Its insane. I cancelled my as i call it fancy reception because if my guest type it would have been more like a dinner party. I am still having my wedding at a beautiful location and a small reception in my back yard. I didnt opt to postphone because someone who is sick may not be here next year and to me celebrating year wouldn't feel the same. But that is just me. I wanted the entire start to finish be it big or small.
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  • Aida
    Devoted May 2021
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    Agreed. I’ve finally made peace with it and it’s okay. I’m also super over the drama that comes with postponing and having a flaky bridal company. It’s cool, things will sort out someday. Hopefully by next year things will be smooth. But to look forward for my elopement is making me happy right now.


    Also I love your tag name because I have a standard poodle baby boy who (will be for the big party) my ring bearer.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    Yaaayyy about your upcoming elopement. Happiness is great and we have to cling onto it whenever we can these days. And double Yaaayyy about your poodle ring bearer 🐩!!! I don’t have a poodle myself, but the poodle has a special meaning in my life. I totally wanted a toy poodle. But I ended up with the best chihuahua in the world 🐾 ❤️
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  • Sarah
    Just Said Yes August 2021
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    I am in exactly the same boat. Before all this covid happened I wanted to get married on the anniversary that we officially became a couple, but that September date conflicted with my bridesmaids and several other guests, so I moved my Wedding date forward to August. Now that my venue has been told we cannot go through with the guest count we want, we have rescheduled to August 2021, but I secretly want to get married this September on our anniversary and just not tell anyone.

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  • Aida
    Devoted May 2021
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    Sarah, that’s what we’re doing. Secretly eloping. The only one who knows is my mom because we’ll need a witness. My bridesmaids are being extremely flaky and unreliable during this whole ordeal that I don’t even feel like telling them what’s going on. I’m excited for this secret. I hope you do go through with your secret too.
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