i am not having Bridesmaids, but i want to do something special for the girls i would have chosen. Need ideaas

Eh I think if they will not be standing by your side maybe not tell them what to wear. Unless they are officially your wedding party I would not want to be told what to wear. I like the idea of a little gift. Maybe a mini bottle of champagne?

You could do a luncheon for them a day or two before the wedding (or even on the wedding day)! You could give them their gifts at the lunch, and celebrate them by spending time with them and treating them to a meal.

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Okay, that is a great idea! Thank you!

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Maybe give them a necklace that represents them? Thank you for responding!

I didn’t have bridesmaids but treated my best friends like they were, I looked at is as all the fun of being a bridesmaid without the responsibility.


I invited them to come get ready with me and gave them the option to have their hair and makeup done. I also invited them to rehearsal dinner (but didn’t have them come to rehearsal) and still got them gifts.
They still ended up coordinating colors but I didn’t ask them to do that. Once I went to the venue for first look, they met up with their husbands and all went to a bar before the wedding together. They also came and hung out with me in the bridal suite between first look and the actual ceremony.

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Thank is adorable! I don't want to force anyone to do anything. I just want them to know how special they mean to me.

View Quoted Comment The necklace is a cute idea!! Maybe also a personalized, handwritten note to each one to thank them for their friendship and for their support?

I’m in the same boat. I’m only having my sister as a MOH, my fiancé and I just want it really intimate at the alter and have it be about us. I’m going to invite them to get ready with me in the morning if they choose, give them a small gift also, and have them see me in my dress before.


I kind of also wanted them in semi-same color hues for my wedding, but like other people said, I’m not going to push it. If not that, maybe eat at dinner with our best friends at the same table, because we’re not leaning towards a sweetheart table.
A luncheon/dinner is a great idea also!

I love the idea of getting them a jewelry gift and doing something nice with them, like a bridal brunch, or having them at the rehearsal. I don't know about asking them to wear the same thing because that seems too much like an official bridesmaid request.