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Hurt & Frustrated

Aliea, on August 23, 2021 at 1:05 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 14

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My wedding is in 24 days and I just had the wind knocked out of me. One of my younger brother's was killed on Friday and I have no desire to finish things for this wedding. I can't eat I haven't slept my friends are asking what they can do and how they can help but I can't even begin to think of burying him let alone tell them how they can help. I'm snapping at my FH and all he is trying to do is be supportive but he is unsure of what to do and say, he is an only child and death never hit this close to him before. I feel like I'm in a dream and need to wake up. I want to go back to feeling like I'm on cloud nine instead I'm in this really dark hole. Just needing some positive vibes my way.

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Latest activity by Aliea, on August 25, 2021 at 8:24 AM

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Kristen · on August 23, 2021 at 6:55 AM
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Oh my love, I am so very sorry for your loss. It’s understandable how you’re feeling. Nobody can really know what to do or say because there isn’t anything that will make it better. You could ask your FH to manage contacting your vendors to try and push back your wedding. You need some time to grieve (IMO). Sending you a huge virtual hug.
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Cyndy · on August 23, 2021 at 7:27 AM
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Oh no, my heart aches for you and your family during this loss. I’m sure your friends want to help so that you have time to grieve with your family, and maybe like the PP said they could help by postponing your wedding and contacting vendors. I’m sure it’s a lot to think about right now, but please try to take care of yourself. Prayers to your family! 🙏
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Yasmine · on August 23, 2021 at 7:58 AM
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Sorry to hear that, my condolences . Have you thought about postponing possibly?
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Katie · on August 23, 2021 at 8:21 AM
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Aliea, I am truly sorry for this incredible loss of your brother. I cannot even begin to imagine what you and your family must be going through. If you’re being married by a spiritual leader (priest, rabbi, pastor) perhaps meet with this officiant first to pray together and spiritual support during this time. I agree with the ladies who have posted, to ask your fiancé and friends to reach out to your vendors to schedule a meeting all together next week to determine if it is in your best interest to postpone.

I am so sorry. Prayers to you and your family to bring you peace and comfort. 🙏🏻
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Samantha · on August 23, 2021 at 9:20 AM
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I too have lost a brother, so my heart aches for you. Take it day by day, minute by minute. No harm in postponing or in letting other people handle things for a few days if you think you want to go through with the wedding. You have people behind you
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Charlotte · on August 23, 2021 at 9:54 AM
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I’m so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how you are doing, but I am sending you hugs and lots of positive energy. My condolences to you.
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Samantha · on August 23, 2021 at 11:04 AM
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I am so so sorry. This is just horrible.
Be good to yourself. I don’t have any words of advice, but please take care of yourself. Eat. Drink water. Try to rest. I am so sorry.
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Heather · on August 23, 2021 at 4:10 PM
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Aliea,
I am so sorry for your loss.. I pray that God provides you, your family, and friends the strength to get through this difficult time. If that's how you are feeling I would suggest postponing if possible so you can have time to grieve
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Ingrid · on August 23, 2021 at 5:16 PM
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In circumstances like these, it is hard to find the words that will heal the aching heart. My heart goes out to you and your family during this time of sorrow. I love all the suggestions - you have love and support. Let them handle those things give yourself time to process. If you need to postpone it is ok, it is a day about you and your FH and he will support you no matter what.
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Melinda · on August 24, 2021 at 5:50 PM
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So sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family.
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Naomi · on August 24, 2021 at 7:50 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family. I don't have any answers only you know what you need to do. Take care of yourself mentally and emotionally no matter what that looks like to anyone else.
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Candace · on August 24, 2021 at 8:36 PM
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I'm so sorry, Aliea. I can't imagine how hurt you are. It's ok that you don't have the words to tell them how they can help you. Take some time for yourself to collect your thoughts. When you're ready, you can tell them what you need.
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Jacks · on August 25, 2021 at 2:19 AM
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Oh I'm so sorry. I don't even know what to say. I very much hope you have all the support you need during this terrible time.
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Aliea · on August 25, 2021 at 8:24 AM
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Thank you everyone
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