Hurt bride

I can understand why you would be hurt, but kicking her out of the wedding is a little much. Since she's your best friend, I would imagine that more times than not, she's pulled through and been there for you. She made a mistake, that doesn't mean you should discard your friendship.

I understand why you're hurt. That was such an important moment and she let something routine (a happy hour) distract her from it. We're not in tune to your relationship with her, but I always advise to wait until the emotions have settled before making any decisions.

I can understand why you are hurt, but this isn't worth making a big deal about. She had a prior commitment & it went long, she didn't do it on purpose. I did my final fitting & picked up my dress alone, I didn't want to deal with organizing with other people.

I don’t think picking up the dress is a major wedding event. I went to all my fittings alone bc I had to and it was fine. I wouldn’t spend time dwelling on it.

I purchased my dress online, my bridal party came to one fitting and I wasn't feeling it. I'd rather them be there for me for the bachlorette, rehearsal and the actual wedding.

I understand why you are hurt, but I'd say cut her a break on this one. She seemed to have a legit reason to have been late, although yeah she should have made the effort to be there especially since you were there alone. I suggest moving on from it and letting her know that you really want her to be there for you on these things moving forward. She how she reacts to you by telling her that and go from there. I wouldn't kick her out because of this one instance. Do you have any other bridesmaids or a maid of honor to help you out with things if she isn't able to commit as much?

In the grand scheme of things, this honestly is not a big deal. I had zero people involved in my dress shopping and fitting.

You need to ask yourself though--is this a hill you really want to die on?

Definitely, as others have said, cut her some slack. Honestly the cold, hard truth is that bridesmaids and MOH don't have any other real duty than to buy the dress and show up to stand by your side at the wedding. Everything else is just a bonus. As a friend, it would be nice if she could come and do all the things you want for your wedding, but it may not always happen. Just because you're getting married doesn't mean she suddenly has to do everything related to your wedding. There will be more important moments coming up and hopefully she can be a part of those. But if you ask her to step down now, you will likely ruin the friendship, and this just doesn't seem like a friendship ruining type of moment. Give it some time and hopefully when you've had a chance to cool off you'll be able to cut her more of a break and move on.

I do think you are overreacting a bit. I think it's totally okay to be hurt by not having your best friend there with you when she was supposed to be, but kicking her out of the wedding is a bit extreme. You said she's your best friend. Are you willing to ruin your entire friendship over her missing an appointment? I think being upset is totally normal and expressing that you feel hurt and disappointed is fair, but if she's truly is your best friend I hope the two of you can find a way to work past this.

I don't like it when people don't keep commitments. But if she is generally a good friend, it is not something to pull her out of the wedding, or your life, for. Silly. You likely have one or two fittings, and u like picking up the dress, they are where it is helpful to have another pair of eyes. And if your gown is bustled, it is necessary to have someone other than you who knows how to hook it up. Your seamstress will show you. Your friend can take pics at each step. When you see it properly hemmed and fit, wearing your final choice of foundations, really looking perfect, then will be your best moment except the wedding itself.

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I agree, I am not sure why you wanted someone there. Then again, I had my dress delivered by Amazon and tried it on in my living room, alone. Please do NOT kick her out of the bridal party over this minor thing. That is a friendship ending move my friend!!

I can understand why your hurt.. my FMIL did something similar to me. I ordered my dress sight-unseen.. and when it came in, I wanted her and my own mother to be there when I first saw it..

she had to watch my FSIL's kids because FSIL's dog got sprayer by a skunk...? If an adult can't handle a stinky dog and a kid at the same time, there's a problem. It really hurt to not be made a priority for something like that. I didn't have to include her, as I actually wasnt officially engaged to her son at the time, but I wanted to..

getting spurned like that is heartbreaking, and like you said. You can't get that moment back.

I think you are hurt because you had an expectation and your reality didn't match that expectation. In the future with this friend you should clearly express your expectations.

Kicking her out is dramatic in my opinion and I think you should let this go (after discussing with her why you're hurt).

I went alone for my first dress fitting, actually FH dropped me off but insisted in sitting in the car (not the lobby) because heaven forbid he see anything of the dress LOL (his opinion not mine).

There will be future fittings and future events that will be so much more of a memory than this