How young is too young? Flower girls and Ring Bearers

Depends on the child - development varies significantly between individuals, so she may be really steady on her feet or may have some troubles. My FH's niece is one of our flower girls, and we also have an older flower girl (BM's daughter) who is 5. My plan is to ask the older flower girl to hold FH's niece's hand if she's unsteady (she'll be almost 2). But also, she has 2 younger sisters, so she's used to helping out with littler kids.

My flower girls are 18 months and 4.5 and are sisters. Their mom is my MOH so I'm hoping if nothing else the baby will just go to her mom.

Our ring bearers are 2 2 year olds and an 8 year old. If the little boys won't walk, we have the big boy who will.

I also plan at rehearsal to have candy or something for them as a way of bribery haha

I have a toddler, who goes to church every week. I wouldn't allow her to participate in a wedding until she's at least 4 years old - if she's well behaved, at that point.

A child pulling a baby in a wagon does not sound safe to me.

I started singing at weddings about 15 years ago. Many churches have a minimum age to walk down the aisle - like 6 - for a very good reason.

Is your sister going to be in the wedding? I am having my FSIL/FBIL carry our nephew down the aisle (he is 2 months old).

Yes my sister is going to be my Matron of Honor. I am thinking of having my brother in law carry her down then sit with her in the front.

Conrad's on being a first time Aunt! You'll love it! Best thing that ever happened to me besides meeting FH!

My flower girls are my 10 yr old niece and FHs 2 yr old niece. The 2 yr old is pretty advanced for her age (IMO) and not the least bit shy! Plus FH is one of her favorite people right after mommy and daddy so i'm sure she will go straight t him and if there's any trouble my older niece will help her. She is great with little kids.

I would ask your older flower girl if she would be ok with helping the younger one. If shes shy having to help another kid might actually help her be less aware of everyone looking at her. Your sister's baby could be fine n her feet by 1 1/2 FH's 2 yr old niece walks and talks like a 3 or 4 yr old. But she's had 2 older brothers to catch up too so she was pretty motivated I guess.

My youngest niece was a flower girl at 1 last year and she did fine. For my wedding she was 2 so a little more experienced but you never know with kids that age so just be prepared that she might make it down or might not.

Depends on the kid and the day and the hour. I've had kids who were absolutely fine a the walk through and disintegrated into full tilt meltdowns when they get to an aisle full of guests.

The only reliable advice is this; whatever they do at the far end of the aisle is their expression of their decision. If they don't want to go down the aisle, don't make them. If they start crying along the way or at the front row, have a person assigned to remove them to a quiet place where they (and you) will be happier.

I think 1 is probably too young. We have a 1 year old niece, and while she is super smart and can walk, I don't think she can walk all the way down the aisle and I wouldn't trust having another little one pull her in a wagon.

We do have a 2.5 year old niece as well who is going to be our flower girl. I'm really nervous about how she'll behave, since she stiffens up when she's in a room full of people she doesn't know. FSIL has been having her practice walking down the aisle so she can get used to it, but we are just going to see how she acts when she gets to the end of the aisle on wedding day. You can always tell when she's about to throw a fit, so once we see that look she's going to sit with grandma.

Like @laura, we are having my FBIL and FSIL carry our nephew in with them (they are both in the wedding). if he is being fussy day of, we will skip it and just have him sit with my FH's aunt.

Yea, what @Celia said.

I made peace with the fact that having children in the wedding means unpredictability. I've been looking for hair accessories for the little one - trying to find something inexpensive because, chances are, she'll take it off halfway down the aisle. If she doesn't want to walk, then she doesn't have to. FSIL (mother) is a BM so I simply told her to do whatever she needs to do for her child, even if that means she's gotta abandon the ceremony.

I have a seven year old flower girl who will be pushing a cart with the < 1yr old ring bearer. It depends on the child and if they would be able to do it and feel comfortable doing it.

My flower girls were my 19 month old daughter and her 21 month old cousin. They would have been fine on their own but I had my mom walk with them just in case. I remember when I was 4 though, I was a flower girl for my cousin and was so shy I practically walked ON the bride. It really depends on the kids.

We have two FG ages 8 and 7 and our ring bearer is 8 years of age also.

I'm sorry but infants that can't walk being in a wedding drives me nuts. Basically they are a prop.