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Alaina
Savvy August 2020

How to word not invited to wedding due to Covid 19

Alaina, on May 15, 2020 at 11:16 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 19
I live in california and things are slowly opening up. I have been in contact with my Venue a lot during this Pandemic. I got some great news yesturday! They will are having there first small events under 50 ppl the first weekend of June. I am getting married August 28th. Not sure where we will be by than in Cali but we working on our Plan B, Under 50 ppl. We invited about 75-80 people. We lowered our guest count to 50, but for the others invited not sure how to put it nicely that "due to the pandemic we have to keep it under 50 and you are not invited.." Ugh!! I am sure people will understand. But just hard to know how to word it!! We are sending our invites next month and may just send all the invites out? And than see where things go? So hard to know!!


Any ideas??

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Latest activity by Alaina, on May 16, 2020 at 9:24 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Could you use Zoom to allow the other invitees to witness the ceremony? That might go over a little better. If so, I would send notifications or reach out to each household and say something like “due to statewide restrictions, we must limit our guest list to immediate family. We hope that you can still join in on our ceremony via Zoom....”
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  • Alaina
    Savvy August 2020
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    Ah that is a great idea!! Thanks girl!
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    I love Caytlyn's idea!! I think it's a perfect compromise, and in general I think everyone will be really understanding that you're trying to act with an abundance of caution for everyone's safety! Smiley heart

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  • Belle
    VIP August 1997
    Belle ·
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    Agreed with above. Invite them to join via zoom. And for the 50 people, send an invitation without having to excuse why you can’t invite them.
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  • Belle
    VIP August 1997
    Belle ·
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    I mean you don’t have to have an excuse why you don’t invite the rest.
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  • Alaina
    Savvy August 2020
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    Thanks Belle! I agree too.
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  • J
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    Most people are aware that not only are weddings expensive anyway but gatherings are very limited now. Don't say a word to anyone about not being invited. If they don't receive an invite, they can't come. It's pretty easy to understand without coming across as mean.
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  • Alaina
    Savvy August 2020
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    Thanks Jana! I have to keep that in mind!
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  • Renee
    Super June 2020
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    I don't agree with inviting the 50 guests then dashing the other 25-30 guests to the side. While you don't have to come up with an excuse, just being honest is the best way to go about the situation. Especially if you sent them a save-the-date and have been keeping them in the loop; follow our website, here is the change the data, we'll keep you in the know.

    If I were guest, I would rather hear "hey, we are following the guidelines and had to make guest cuts but here is our Zoom link vs dang, I never got an invitation from Renee but we just spoke last month about how excited we both were." People are understanding, just be real with them.

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  • Sarah
    Expert August 2020
    Sarah ·
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    When I was printing our “delay the date cards” I noticed Ann’s bridal bargains had some for this exact purpose and the wording was great. Maybe check it out for the ideas!
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  • Alaina
    Savvy August 2020
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    Thanka Renee! Honesty is the best way to go! And that people will understand❤
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  • Alaina
    Savvy August 2020
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    Thanks sarah!! I will totally check her out!! ❤
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  • Amyrrah
    Beginner March 2021
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    I think your guest will totally understand the hard decision you’re faced with! Something along the lines of “Unfortunately we are forced to limit our headcount due to the COVID19 pandemic”
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  • Sarita
    Just Said Yes April 2021
    Sarita ·
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    I changed my date because of this reason.
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  • Alaina
    Savvy August 2020
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    That is really good! Thanks Amyrrah! I apperciate your help! ❤
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  • Alaina
    Savvy August 2020
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    Awe I am sorry to hear that Sarita. But glad you are doing what is best for you ❤
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  • L
    Super October 2020
    Leslie ·
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    We’re sorry we’re not able to have you join us in person, but restrictions have limited our guest list. We are saddened the celebration won’t be exactly what we pictured and hope when things get back to normal we cant wait to see you in person.

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  • Alaina
    Savvy August 2020
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    Thanks Leslie! ❤
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  • Alaina
    Savvy August 2020
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    Gosh thanks for all the support!! All you ladies have helped ease my mind so much! ❤
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