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Sine
Devoted March 2022

How to uninvite guests?

Sine, on February 4, 2022 at 9:19 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 10
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I've got a few family members...3 to be exact...that have really been giving me issues and yesterday really pulled a nasty stunt on me and I don't want them at my wedding. It was borderline that I even sent them an invite in the first place. I don't think 2 of them are coming at all anyways...I haven't received an rsvp yet...but if they do rsvp and say they are coming...how and should I kindly ask that they stay home?


The saddest part is that the one is my 19 year old daughter. I doubt she's coming...but she's especially been running around talking and gossiping and doing some really terrible things behind my back. And she actually gave her stepmom her wedding invite and had told her she wasn't interested but I think her stepmom was trying to convince her to go. I'm actually worried she's going to start trouble at the reception. I know that sounds terrible...but...it's true. And I have younger children that will be in attendance and I don't want that influence on them either.

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Latest activity by Sloane, on February 9, 2022 at 2:21 PM
  • Zully
    Dedicated September 2023
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    I’m sorry you’re going through this! Especially with family. If you know for A FACT you don’t want them to attend then you need to let them know as soon as possible. Do not wait for them to RSVP one way or another. I would call them up or let them know face to face that you no longer feel it is a good idea for them to attend. It may be awkward but if the stunt they pulled is as bad as you say then they probably already have a feeling they are going to be uninvited. Be prepared for some backlash, but at the end of the day your wedding is about you and your wishes. Good luck!
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    If you know for a fact that you don’t want them there and you’re ok with severing the relationships with these guests, just be honest that they’re no longer welcome. Make sure you are prepared that that decision could mean never again having a relationship with your daughter, because that could be a possibility.
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  • Sine
    Devoted March 2022
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    That's true...shouldn't wait until.theyve already rsvp'd. I'm perfectly fine with backlash because I actually hadn't spoken to some of this family in many years due to similar issues in the past and only in the past year been involved with them again so...sadly it won't be anything new.
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  • N
    Expert June 2021
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    If you do uninvite certain members of your family be sure to have a plan in place for the possibility of them still coming out of spite for being uninvited. I hope it wouldnt come to that but I like to plan for every possible scenario. Make sure your venue knows who not to let in. The last thing you want is a disturbance or a scene at your wedding. Good luck!
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    Be aware that it is a relationship ending move if you do and something you can’t take back, nor is it polite to do so except in extreme situations. Just let them know immediately that they are not invited, if you know for certain this is what you want.
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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
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    You don't want your daughter at your wedding? Bless her stepmom for trying. I don't know that there's any situation where I wouldn't want my kids at the wedding.

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  • Sine
    Devoted March 2022
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    It's complicated. More than I'm going to explain. It's not that I don't want her...but I don't want her being there making her usual scene...if that makes sense at all?


    She's hurt me pretty badly recently...you say you can't imagine as a parent not wanting her but as a child and mother myself I can't imagine saying and doing the things she's done to me to my own mother. She has no respect for anyone...
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  • Sloane
    Super May 2022
    Sloane ·
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    Though it may be considered rude I have no problem uninviting people especially if they are acting ugly in between now and your big day. You have every right to have people around you who love and adore you. I would probably just be blunt and tell them the truth that their presence would not being added value to the day. Or I would just say sorry the window for RSVPs has closed and keep it movin.
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  • Sine
    Devoted March 2022
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    That's exactly it! Exactly how I'm feeling. Considered rude? Probably but...I find it ruder to have people that aren't rooting for me come and eat food and cake I'm paying for and then talk behind my back so...before that happens...I think I need to just tell them straight out that their presence isn't needed there. My fiance and me both deserve to have people that are happy for us and appreciate us! Right?
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  • Sloane
    Super May 2022
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    Exactly! I’m happy to make the call for you I have no problem telling people that they’re not invited. In fact I went through my guest list again and anybody who hasn’t called me in the last year to say hey how you doing I canceled.
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