Jessica
Just Said Yes August 2021

How to tell the parents...?

Jessica, on November 18, 2019 at 4:34 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14
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Hello all! I am hoping to get some advice. I just got engaged a week ago and I am trying to decide how to tell my parents. I live about 10 hours away from them so it's not very easy to just drop in and see them. I have always dreamed of telling them in person so my mom and I could jump around together, but since that is not so easy I was thinking of video chatting with them and telling them, but I feel that just isn't as special. I will see them soon for Thanksgiving, but then my Fiancé won't be with me, and I really want us to tell them together. So I feel I have two options: tell them now via video chat so my FI can be there, or tell them in person when I see them next week but my FI won't be with me.

Any thoughts on which would be best? I'm very close to my parents so I want to make sure I tell them in the best way possible.

Thank you all!

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  • Sarah
    VIP September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    Have you two told anyone else? If it were me, I would video chat them now so they could talk to both of us. It will still be exciting to celebrate your news when you see them for Thanksgiving!
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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·
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    I would tell them sooner rather than later. They might be update that you waited.

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  • L
    Savvy October 2019
    Lené ·
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    I would video call them. It would be super sweet if your FH could be a part of the surprise. Then you and your mom can jump around in person during thanks giving and start throwing wedding ideas around with her. Guys don't care about all the details as long as the food and dranks are good lol
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  • Jessica
    Just Said Yes August 2021
    Jessica ·
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    That's a good point! We've told his parents since they live just 10 minutes away from us and my co-workers since they spotted my ring, but we are waiting to tell everyone else until we tell my parents. Thanks for the advice!

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  • L
    Lady ·
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    Yeah, just call them. If you're close, I imagine they would feel a little sad or angry if they found out weeks later just because you wanted to tell them in person. Maybe not, but I probably would feel that way!

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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    We video called our families! When they answered I had my hand up to my face Haha.
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  • Erika
    Devoted April 2021
    Erika ·
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    We waited until my sister and mom are in town then he will tell his Mom next week at Thanksgiving. It was awesome to tell everyone in person.
    In our case those that know didn't spill the beans to anyone else. They knew we were telling everyone in person.

    Either way its Great News and it will be spacial no matter how you tell them.
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  • Andrea
    Expert May 2020
    Andrea ·
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    I would FaceTime them immediately. Imagine if they found our from someone else?! My mom would be crushed. But we are very close and she was my first call. Did you fiancé ask for your parents blessing? Cause they might already have some idea and are just waiting to hear for you
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  • Rachel
    Savvy July 2020
    Rachel ·
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    My fiancé proposed while we were on vacation together with his parents. My dad knew (FH “asked him” the day before we left) I always imagined telling my mom in person but I FaceTimed her right after it happened because I couldn’t wait to tell her and it’s honestly one of my favorite moments of our proposal/engagement. She answered and I didn’t even say anything I just held my hand up and I’ll never forget the look on her face.
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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    It’s almost the holidays. Will you see them next week for Thanksgiving? That could be a good time to do it!
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  • Kelsey
    Devoted October 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    I told my parents through FaceTime because my fiancé proposed in Nashville and we live in Pennsylvania. It was still very special but I was also able to see them when we returned from our trip. My parents knew it was coming because my fiancé asked my dad for permission and he obviously told my mom. It depends on how long it’ll be until you’ll see them with your fiancé but maybe you could FaceTime your fiancé when you tell them at thanksgiving?
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I would go ahead and video call your parents! That won't make the news any less special Smiley smile

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  • Alejandra
    Expert November 2020
    Alejandra Online ·
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    I would definitely video chat! And who knows, maybe that will make them want to come out and see the both of you after thanksgiving to celebrate together!
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  • Ashley
    Expert November 2020
    Ashley ·
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    I can't believe you've kept it a secret for over 1 week! Haha Kudos to you! I video called my parents (with my FH) a few hours it happened and I only waited because they are Air Force and stationed in South Korea so i had to wait because of the time difference. Tried calling them right afterwards, but it was 3am and they were not picking up. Haha

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