How to tell the Bride?!

Will you still feel up to going to the wedding after just giving birth, I don't have any children so I'm just wondering how one feels a week after.

If it takes she's going to know anyway so just be honest with her right now. I would have no issues with my MOH being pregnant during my engagement or at my wedding as long as she feels up to it.

Approach her honestly, that's all you can do. Sadly, you cant make her understanding if shes determined not to be. Your family and life have to come first. It sounds like you are a wonderful and considerate friend.

One of my bestfriends told me right away that she was being inseminated right when I asked her to be a bridesmaid. If she had gotten pregnant by it she wouldn't have been able to be a bridesmaid because she would have given birth a week or so before hand.

I fully accepted that and appreciated her honestly.

She ended up not gettig pregnant that time, but rather a few months later and made the perfect bridesmaid at 6 months pregnant.

Chances are, if you do get pregnant right now and have the baby a week before her wedding you will not be able to be in the wedding. It's up to you whether or not you want to tell her there's a chance, or wait and tell her once you are actually pregnant.

You just have to be honest. If you're giving birth a week before her wedding, it is likely you won't be able to attend unless it is a local wedding and you have a lot of help that day with the baby.

But don't put the cart before the horse. Wait until you're pregnant and then tell her. She should understand and be happy for you or she's not a very good friend. You can still be there for the pre-wedding parties.

And about your brother's wedding - it's none of her business that you're MOH in a second wedding. She has no right to be jealous.

Just be honest with her...my MOH and her husband were going to try after summer, which would have put her due date right around my wedding. I asked her if she thought she would be up either just about to give birth or having just had a baby, due their own decisions they decided to wait a bit longer but I appreciate that she brought that up to me.

As her best friend, you should bring it up to her and she should be happy for you.

I would definitely talk to her, I don't personally have experience in this area but I know a few people with higher-risk or with complications. Many women are put on bed-rest towards the end of their pregnancy or it could run late or early. I would definitely let her know what's happening. Most likely it won't be an issue but it's better to get this out of the way earlier rather than later. I have a feeling most brides get crazier closer to the wedding. (me included lol)

I dunno if my friend had the chance to be a mother when she has fertility issues I would drive her to the clinic myself! She should be happy for you! Be honest though it make everything easier.

Just tell her the truth of the situation. A baby is always happy news!

If your estimated due date is the week before, there is an extremely high probability you won't be attending the wedding at all. Due dates are so fluid, even when you're healthy, that it's perfectly reasonable if you're a first time mother to be a week late. It sounds like you have enough stress, so it's time to share this burden with your friend and release the worry about it.

I am the bride in a similar situation. My sister told me as soon as she found out she was pregnant and wouldn't be able to make it to our DW since she's due a month later and wouldn't be able to fly. I totally understood. I'm sad because she won't be there but I understood that this wasn't about me. Your best friend should also understand.

Funny thing is, I was just looking into IUI this morning! The chances of it taking the first time is slim. I would still be honest with her that it is a possibility. Good luck with the IUI!

I wouldn't worry about it yet. I would wait and see how things work out. If you end up pregnant then yes you need to sit down with her and have a conversation. If you're due date would be 1 week before, I agree with others you won't be at that wedding. And I think having a baby is a decent reason not to be. Find out what your due date would be let her know and explain to her what that means. Tell her that you would love to continue to be a part of the wedding, but (I would offer to step down to her let her make the choice) put it to her that wouldn't she rather know right now and switch things around rather than hope things work out and maybe you will be there verse panicking at the end trying to rearrange things? If she accepts this and you are out of the wedding party I would still let her know you want to help with whatever you can during the process of the wedding if she will allow. Offer her all the support you can give her that way (going with her for errands, helping with DIY, that type of thing)

I think you just have to be honest with her, but you most definitely need to ensure your pregnancy first. You need (in life in general) need to take care of you & your family FIRST. Once you know that you are pregnant and what the due date of your baby is first, then I would sit down with her and let her know honestly everything that is going on and what you are thinking. If she is truly your friend, instead of getting jealous she will not even think twice of being happy for you. Especially since she knows the situation that you are in and are not able to wait. Just be prepared for her to ask you to either step down or share the responsibilities.

My MOH was cross country and wih a very high stress job. I decided to have two MOH. One was local. Perhaps she can have you as her MOH for the whole process and in the program, but have a second who stands up with her at the wedding.

I asked my MOH about two weeks into our engagement. We have been best friends since infants, we've hadv it planned for her to be mine since before I even had a boyfriend.

Six months in, she tells me she really wants a baby and the only was she can is with a doctor's help. She said if it takes on the first time she won't be able to come to my wedding because she will have just given birth. I was crushed. I mentally created back up plans; canceling whole bridal party and just having me and fh up there. But then I calmed down and stopped being selfish and I got super giddy that she was trying to have a baby.

This was three months ago. It still hasn't taken :-/ she will deffinitly be coming to our wedding, and she is still trying (if it takes she'll be about 6/7 months prego). But I've been supporting her through these past months when she's been devastated it didn't take, and she's been supporting me through my wedding problems.

Be honest with her. She will be mad and probably freak out or over react, but she will get over it when she calms down and she will support you.

I would wait to see if you actually get pregnant before jumping the gun on conclusions. Who knows maybe it will take a few months and then you won't be as pregnant for her wedding.

My MOH and her husband are currently trying and if they get pregnant right away she wont be able to make it to the wedding. She would remain my MOH and be involved in the events leading up but I would have someone else be my witness. Would I be sad if she couldn't make it? Yes. Would I be thrilled she's a mom? Yes. It's hard for me to think she may not be there but at the end of the day, it is one day and she'll continue to be a mom and my friend for life.

My best friend is pregnant now, and she's due in late December. As my wedding is in April, she said she'll be ok for it but I would totally understand if she had to step down - her baby's health is much more important! I would like to think she'd do the same of you - especially if she knows your situation. Good luck!

Just tell her-- unless she's a bridezilla, she'll just be thrilled for you. I have had two babies, both by c-section. I could have attended a wedding a week after delivery, but probably not if traveling were involved. If it's just a short car ride, stand (for a reasonable ceremony-- if she's Catholic you might want to think twice) for a bit, then rest through dinner, you could probably manage it.