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How to tell the bride you can no longer make it to her bachelorette party

Al Spen, on May 31, 2024 at 2:17 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4
The maid of honor had planned the location of the bachelorette party a couple of months back which is going to be in Savannah, GA for a 3 day weekend (fri-sun). For me that’s about a 6ish hour drive just depending on traffic, and I originally was completely on board to go and I’ve even paid my portion of the stay. However I have been house hunting this year and finally found my home and my closing date is going to be that Friday of the bachelorette weekend… (the sellers are using a relocation company and they get to dictate or closing day). I have no idea of the time of the closing yet but I think they’re leaning towards afternoon which means at best I wouldn’t get there until the middle of the night or I’d have to wait and drive down Saturday… to just turn around and leave Sunday morning. That’s just not really feasible for me plus I kind of want to go ahead and plan the move in for that weekend too. How do I go about breaking the news to the bride because I’m afraid that she’s going to be really upset about it?


Latest activity by Rae, on June 3, 2024 at 12:56 PM
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    Master July 2019
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    If she’s a close enough friend that she wants you to attend her bachelorette party, then she should understand that closing on your house is more important than an option pre-wedding event. I would just let her know the situation and voice how much you wanted to be there but the timing is out of your control, and you hope she has a great time. If she has a problem with it, then that’s a her problem and not a you problem.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Bachelorette trips are very difficult for many people, contrary to their popularity online. The majority of people chosen as bridesmaids are her closest best friends, not random obligatory acquaintances. In that case, you should be close enough to have an honest conversation about anything on your mind with no hesitation. If she is a real friend, she will not shame you.
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    A close friend should totally understand, especially since you didn't get to choose the closing date. If you'll see the bride in person soon, you could tell her at then, or you could call her once the closing date and time are locked in, and let her know that you're super bummed, but won't be able to attend the bachelorette party anymore due to the timing. I would also suggest still covering any of your costs for the party that you already agreed to.
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    Rockstar June 2018
    Rae ·
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    I would tell her exactly what you posted here. I normally don't think cancelling on something like that after committing is okay, but you are in a unique position. If you are only being given one move-date option there is nothing you can do. If you can financially afford to not request your money back, that would definitely be best.

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