how to tell someone who is throwing the bridal shower that they have bad taste?

I'd let it be.

Can your sister ask your MOH to tone it down?

I would let it go. It's decor. It's a few hours. You're pushing it.

But, asking you to chip in for it? Out of the question. Tell them to cancel it if they can't afford it.

At least then you won't have to worry about ugly decor....

The decor goes, but don't chip in. They can cancel it if they can't afford it.

I told them to cancel (using the baby shower as a reason... I can't put a baby in a colander!) but they say they're in too deep... everyone knows my MOH has awful tastes, it's become a family joke.... I told her to at least return the unnessecary favors ($4 journal!)

My MOH asked me a theme & if there were anything specific I want. I think it's ok to tell them anything specific you would like.

That's a tough situation. I would not cancel unless totally necessary. They had money to get it started, they probably just put it in the wrong places. I wouldn't give them money, but they asked, so now you can put your 2 cents in. Maybe tell them to tone it down, rethink expensive decorations, invites, favors, etc. Best of luck!

I'm not trying to be ungrateful I don't want her to spend money she doesn't have especially if it's on randomness that guests will tease her about. I want to help her.

@sungirl that's exactly what I've been trying to do, but I can't tell one how much the other has told me or they will argue. I wish they hadn't involved me and both sides are putting pressure on me and I just want out.

Why do you even need centerpieces? What's wrong with just having a bunch of people over to eat drink and watch you open gifts? It sounds like showers have become way over the top to me. If you are okay helping out then help out. I'd let them do the decor. It doesn't really matter.

I would only give my opinion if I was specifically asked and then I would still word it in a way that's not harsh. For instance, if she asked my opinion on the centerpieces, I would say something "They're pretty, but maybe try..."

As far as chipping in, I definitely would tell them no and that they need to cut some unnecessary expenses if there's a money issue.

I agree with Erin Wood. They shouldn't be asking you to chip in. They should have a less expensive bridal shower. Centerpieces and decor are not needed. Did they invite too many people? It doesn't need to be anything fancy. Most that I have attended were just at someone's house.