How To Tell People?

Just tell them you’ve changed plans. They’ll understand. You can wear your dress to the courthouse a lot of people do!

I got married my first time with just my parents and a judge as witness and I wore the full wedding gown with veil and a bouquet. A wedding is a wedding is a wedding. Wear what you want! That aside, I'm sure people will understand. Just tell them.

Wow I have the same exact thing going on at the same exact time. We really do not know how to tell everyone either. I actually bought beautiful “we’re married” announcements that will have a picture of us in my dress and fiance in his tux and don’t quite know if that is the right way to go about this...I also have a ball gown dress I bought used when we thought we were going to have a big wedding. I am definitely going to wear it but just for photos so we could have a photo album..hoping to see more comments!

I think it's ok to just tell people you're doing something else

You could always get married at the courthouse now and then when you can afford it throw a reception later

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I agree with this! Also, you can wear your dress to the courthouse! it's still your special dress for your big day!

Explain to them and I’m sure they’ll understand. As previous have said wear the dress to court! Who cares. I also think you can use this for pictures as you can have a shoot of just you two with your dress and tux. You can always have a small celebration later on and share the pictures with friends and family.

I would still wear your dress to the courthouse, and maybe even for your post-wedding celebration! I went to a party last year for a high school friend who had gotten married 6 months prior. It was a really nice event held at the home of a family friend of theirs. She also wore her wedding dress again for the party.

I fully support the courthouse wedding! It’s definitely smart for the budget. Maybe still get a photographer for one hour, and do a fun photo shoot with your husband in your ballgown? That way you’ll have memories in that beautiful dress forever! (While still saving 40k ...) good luck!! 😊

You're still inviting your parents, right? I assume so because you said you're doing it when they're visiting? I think they will just be happy to be included, and who knows maybe you can throw a big vow renewal someday!

Also, if I were you I'd still wear the big white dress to the courthouse you're the bride, you can wear whatever you want! Nothing is too fancy for your own wedding day, regardless of location, IMO

View Quoted Comment Yes, my parents will definitely still going to be there, but neither of our brothers will be there though, nor will our friends.

my dress is completely unaltered so it’ll probably be ridiculous looking but that’s ok lol.

I see nothing wrong with any of this. You can change your mind and make other plans...why not (sucks being an adult, lol) but this is completely fine...people should understand. Wear your dress to the courthouse!!! I think that will be awesome and I love the other suggestion of hiring a photographer for an hour so you guys can get pictures. Nothing wrong with changing plans at all.

You can totally rock a ball gown for a courthouse wedding if you want to!

Small update, he told his mom and she was very upset about the idea, as she feels it’s too soon and would feel rushed. We’ve decided to wait until June (when my parents are back out) and do a small elopement in Rocky Mountain National Park when you live next to somewhere so beautiful, why not? The whole thing should cost about $400+ whatever we can find a photographer for I think it’s a good compromise

You definitely can wear your dress to the courthouse. It’s still your wedding whether big white wedding or courthouse style. You can share your sentiments with them and still look as beautiful as you want in that dress. They’ll support you. ❤️

View Quoted Comment Just seen this! Beautiful. Congrats and wish you the best.

I have a very close friend who did a courthouse wedding 2 years ago and just last weekend did the full traditional big wedding. It was easier for them to push out the time so they could make it more budget friendly. The choice is up to you. They will respect it

View Quoted Comment Hmm this makes me wonder. Going to be telling them this weekend . We will see how it goes. But I’m glad you guys worked it out!! Sounds like a great idea!!!

I say wear the dress and hire someone to take photos of it all. Do a simple dinner after. Your parents should want whatever you want for your special day.

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Wow, that sounds amazing! Totally worth waiting until June for that kind of setting.

Congrats and enjoy your day!