How to tell people their kids are not invited

You don't, you just clearly list who IS invited in the invitations. If you are only inviting the parents (not the whole family) just address the invitation to Mr. and Mrs. XX. You can also include a line such as "We have reserved 2 seats in your honor."

Beach dreams took the words outta my mouth

No munchkins.

Hahaha. Ok wrong thing.

What @Beachy said. That's your best option.

This was part of our info on the back of our invites. I found it online but not too many people have been upset yet. You'll have a few but that's expected. Honestly my guests with children have been excited about the "parents night out"! Besides, we're having a live band and full bar so it's not exactly going to be a kid friendly zone anyway. Children would've doubled our guest list not to mention cost of dinner so when I explained it like that to the few upset people they completely understood and now have sitters . Hope that helps!!!

I put Adults Only right at the bottom of the invite, but my kids will be there, and ppl are looking forward to the kids free night...

You really don't TELL them. Putting "adult only" on the invitation is also kind of tacky. On the invitation, make sure you clearly address them to "Mr. & Mrs. John Smith" NOT "The Smith Family". People also have put "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor" on the RSVP card and filled in the number (2 for a couple) so it was clear that only the adults were invited. I didn't do that, and had no issues with guests trying to invite extra people, though. You could also put some information on your website about an "adult only reception" but don't need to go on and on about it. If anyone does actually try to RSVP their kids, just call and let them know that unfortunately, you can't accommodate their children, but you hope they can still attend. Like I said, I didn't have any issues with people trying to add their kids so hopefully it won't even come to that!

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Do NOT put what Heather put....

Yes to annakay511 and BeachDreams.

Please do not put anything about adults only on your invites. It's considered rude.

@heather.

no. no. no. Do you really think people who were offended will tell you? That is solidly in 'think it but don't say it' territory.

@beach dreams

YES!

FSS, no "adults only" on the invite.

What we have printed occasionally if the ceremony and reception are at the same location, after all the info -

Adult Reception to Follow

Agree, you don't put this information on your invites, or anywhere other than your website. You let them know by doing exactly BeachDreams and annakay511 have said.

Address the invites to the parents only: "Mr and Mrs James Smith". Not "the smiths" or "the smith family". Then on your RSVP card, put "RSVP by the 4th of July, we have reserved _2_ seats in your honor, __ accepts with pleasure, __declines with regret"

Do not do what heather did. That's very rude.

If anyone asks about the kid thing, and they will, just say you're sorry but you are unable to accomodate their Kids but you really hope they will still be able to attend.

No one will side eye you if YOUR kids are there. It's your wedding. People expect them to be there

Like this

I have been concerned about this as well. My 14 yr old daughter is my MOH and her childhood friend who is a close friend of the family is and is 19 is another bridesmaid. My stepfamily also have several small children, my FBIL has 4 kids, another close family friend has 4 kids, and my best friend has 2 kids, so children are obviously invited. And my wedding is Easter weekend so I expect it to be more of a family experience than ever considering an "adults only" wedding. However, I have one friend who desperately want to come with her husband, but her children are absolutely obnoxious. I'd love to have my friend there, but I definitely do not want her children there because I know they cannot behave at all in public. I still haven't figured out how to handle this without hurting anyone's feelings

I just simply address the STDS and invites out as Mr. And Mrs. Not the brown family. Most of the family knows it will be adults only by word of mouth so it works out. I also put on the invites adult affair. There are some inconsiderate family

members out there who will bring there kids anyway so that is why i understand if it has to be put on the invite or website. Trust me i have been to a wedding where that happened before and it was a nightmare.