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Michelle
Beginner October 2019

How to tell my dad i don’t want him walking me down the aisle?

Michelle, on May 26, 2019 at 9:42 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10
Hello all!
My parents got divorced right in the beginning of my relationship with my FH. My dad basically spent 100k behind my moms back causing many issues resulting in their demise. My dad never owned up to his mistakes and still continues to spend money he doesn’t have. The only time I speak to my father is at family events and he will even start drama at children’s birthday parties to get some attention. Needless to say I do not want him to walk me down the aisle nor do I want to dance with him. I just don’t know when I should tell him or if I should bring it up. He hasn’t asked about the wedding nor can he contribute. I know it will cause family drama that I want to walk alone. Any advice on how, when I should tell him?
My date is 10.19.19.

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Latest activity by Paula, on May 26, 2019 at 6:22 PM
  • Hunter
    Dedicated May 2020
    Hunter ·
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    I'd tell him ASAP just so you can get the drama out of the way before it gets closer to the wedding

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    Honestly I would just not say anything. Maybe he doesn’t expect to be doing it anyway? You don’t want to provoke him by going out of your way to tell him that he isn’t
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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
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    Yikes! This is tough bc Idk him and how he’ll react. Depending on his personality I would either 1. Not say anything at all, and he would find out on the big day by looking at the program, or 2. Tell him ASAP that you e already made a decision on who will walk you down.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
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    If he hasn't said anything don't push it. Once he mentions it just tell him no.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Exactly this.
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  • Madison
    Devoted May 2022
    Madison ·
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    If he asks then tell him no and if he has a problem he should be lucky he is even invited. We are legit in the same boat. I don’t really talk to my dad but I was nice and invited him. I am assuming he doesn’t expect that he will walk me down the isle or have a dance. If he does I or my mom being thy they are on good terms will tell him no. My brother is walking me down the isle and if anyone has a problem with that and they feel the need to start drama because of it I honestly just won’t out up with it 😂. I am being nice by inviting him and his side of the family. I feel as if though I’m doing enough on my end.
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  • Kiara
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    Kiara ·
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    I will just let him know the quicker you tell him the better u will feel2get it off ur chest.. He has2know but dont wait2long..
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  • Robert
    Dedicated October 2021
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    When/whether you choose to tell him is up to you and depends on your relationship with him- but I would bring it up as a positive, not a negative, i.e. "I'm walking down the aisle with X" or "I'm walking down the aisle alone" rather than "I don't want to walk down the aisle with you"-- phrasing it as a rejection could easily be taken badly!

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  • Andrea
    Savvy August 2019
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    I am in the same boat as you. I absolutely feel your pain. My father and I had a big falling out just before I got engaged. We brought up our wedding and I told him who I wanted to walk me down the aisle...it's my mom and older sister. He got irritated by the very notion, yet has made no attempt to try to better our dynamic.
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  • Paula
    Super September 2019
    Paula ·
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    That's a tough situation but I would definitely be up front and honest and say "this is how I want my wedding to go" and "this is how I will be walking down the aisle"

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