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Just Said Yes September 2020

How to tell family to back off

Ashley, on August 25, 2019 at 10:15 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 9

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So my grandmother is being really rude and judgmental and giving unwanted advice. First it was my venue choice, then it was my bridesmaids dresses, then my shoes, my Wedding dress! She also to me to make my boobs a little more "pronounced" i told want my family heirlooms to be the only thing they look at, she then tells my mother in law tell that to the groom! shes trying to pick my colors and my accessories. When i tell her i dont like anything she has picked she get up and storms away. She did all of this in davids bridal. Even told my mother in law i was being ridiculous and being a spoiled brat. Any advice

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Latest activity by Cristy, on August 26, 2019 at 1:25 PM

Just Said Yes September 2020
Ashley · on August 25, 2019 at 10:18 PM
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Told* didnt want*
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VIP May 2015
KiwiDerbyBride · on August 25, 2019 at 10:23 PM
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No more info for Granny. No dress shopping trips, no helping you choose flowers or decor, nothing more about your wedding reaches her ears until the day of. If she doesn’t know, she can’t criticise.
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Expert September 2019
Rachel · on August 25, 2019 at 10:23 PM
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What's your relationship like with your grandmother, outside of/before wedding planning?
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Champion December 2017
earias · on August 25, 2019 at 10:51 PM
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Exactly this. OP, stop including her. Don't give her any more information so she can't give you her unsolicited opinion. If she still continues, just ignore her or change the subject. Walk away from her until she gets the point.
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Master May 2019
Chandra · on August 25, 2019 at 11:07 PM
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My grandma was the same way. Opinions about everything. My mom talked to her and then she escalated it to my grandpa to see if he could rein her in.
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Devoted October 2019
Summer · on August 26, 2019 at 12:22 AM
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I was having the same issues with my family, ended up with an hour long straight forward (and kind of a harsh) talk with my mom, and ended with me ignoring my sister for about 2 days. They finally got the hint to back off
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Rockstar July 2018
Mcskipper · on August 26, 2019 at 11:14 AM
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Stop including her in these decisions. My grandma has an opinion about everything so...I told her about nothing! The easiest approach I’ve heard here is to go with “we want it to be a surprise!” when asked details. Just don’t share. I know it may be easier said than done, but, it’s the bests approach!
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VIP September 2019
Yam · on August 26, 2019 at 11:36 AM
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Grandma had her day, this one is yours. Have your mom or something gently remind her because if she’s already set on seeing you as a spoiled brat she’s not going to listen to you.
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Master May 2021
Cristy · on August 26, 2019 at 1:25 PM
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Stop telling grandma any of the details!! Don't even tell her what you "might" be thinking about, because clearly she will give you her opinion. She doesn't need to know any of the details. This is not her wedding. If cutting her out is the only way to get her to back off, so be it!! Tell her you want everything to be a surprise from here on out.
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