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How to tell family they can't stay with us?

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Tsheaby, on July 27, 2017 at 5:59 AM

Hi all! So just a brief background, but my FH's family is going to be road tripping from out of state to be here for the week of our wedding. From what I understand, there is going to be about 8 of them coming out together, including his 92 year old grandmother. Don't get me wrong, I'll be very...

Hi all! So just a brief background, but my FH's family is going to be road tripping from out of state to be here for the week of our wedding.

From what I understand, there is going to be about 8 of them coming out together, including his 92 year old grandmother.

Don't get me wrong, I'll be very excited to see them but my FH wants them to stay at our house to cut costs as they will be on a rather tight travel budget.

I have two issues with this, 1. we own our own home but by no means is there enough room for EIGHT guests and it really wouldn't be fair to say only his grandmother can stay with us 2. I don't really WANT anybody staying with us the week of our wedding.

How do I tell his family they can't stay with us and have them understand it's simply because I don't want them all to stay and I want to have a safe space AWAY from family/friends?

Thanks!

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Ms.Fox · on July 27, 2017 at 2:11 PM
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How incredibly presumptuous to think they're going to stay in the bride & groom's home before the wedding...8 people?? That's ridiculous. You fh can kindly tell them you haven't the space or time for hosting.
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Tricia · on July 27, 2017 at 3:16 PM
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Ok it seems to me you can easily get out of this. Because if you can only fit one person in your house you can simply and truly say there isn't room for anyone and tell them you'll be glad to help find a place. Man, it's so easy to find cheap places nowadays with things like airbnb and such. They'll be more comfortable and so will you.
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Tsheaby · on August 14, 2018 at 4:58 PM
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Just wanted to update everyone - we ended up telling absolutely everyone we would not be hosting anyone and that our house was “off limits” the week of the wedding.

This way, we weren’t singling anyone out and we provided accommodation ideas for lodging.

His family ended up getting and splitting a VRBO and it worked out perfectly to allow us to go there, instead of visa versa.

I would recommend this for EVERYONE! It allowed us to have our space and privacy and our own home to retreat to.
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Crystal · on August 14, 2018 at 5:52 PM
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Say you don't have the capacity and time to host. done. that's what i said. and trust me, you won't want to and you'll prob have a bunch of decorations and wedding stuff all over your house
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