Hi,
I have two cousins (they are siblings) whom I have decided to not invite to my wedding. One is currently struggling with alcoholism and the other has mental health issues, his own family of 5, and always brings the drama. It was a really tough call not inviting them but all the advice I've read and gotten is if you are worried they'll cause a scene or take away from your big day, don't invite them. But what do I tell them? I can't use the budget or the small ceremony excuses (200 person guest list) and I can't lie about that because their parents (my aunt and uncle) and two other siblings (my cousins) from that family are invited. They haven't really done anything to me in the past that I can point to as a reason not to invite them. I love them but I just don't want them at my wedding.
I'm not really so close with them that I think I should proactively tell them they aren't invited but I have a feeling I'll get some questions from other family members or even the two cousins in question when they don't get invitations.
Any advice or ways you all have dealt with (somewhat) similar issues would be appreciated!
Best,
S