How to stop thinking about wedding planning?

I’m honestly having the same problem some nights and I still have 2 years. Not sure if they really help but I have a lavender diffuser in my room and some nights I try melatonin, but it does always work for me. Good luck!

Lol, I wish I had good advice but I think this is pretty normal, honestly I was like this my entire engagement and never figured out how to turn it off 😂 even now that I’m married I still think about it sometimes... less, but definitely still lol


It helped me stop OBSESSING to make lists of everything and then when I was up at night unable to sleep because I was so stressed about things I’d remember that as long as it was on the list it would get done and that thinking about it now wouldn’t resolve anything

I agree, making a list and checking things off helps! As do gentle sleep aids, sometimes just falling asleep is the battle!

I was shocked I was able to turn it off for the holidays, but someone would inevitably ask me something and I would launch into The List. I think the key is to do something slightly wedding related but not quite associated - I'm working on gifts for my mom and fmil.

This is totally normal. We all did it/do it. I found that as the months went by and I checked things off my list, I was able to think about it less. I still think about it all the time, but it's not as anxiety-riddled anymore. I'm able to relax and lean into it now, and I'm 31 days out. I think about 2 months ago I finally was able to see my list dwindle down and was able to take a chill pill. Like, I finally realized "I got this. Not much left to do except get married." And I take it one day at a time.

October will be here sooner than you know. Enjoy this time! Try not to let it stress you out too much. Give yourself the gift of time, be patient with yourself, and whenever you need to talk wedding stuff and nobody else is around to listen (which will be constantly), just write to us here. We ALWAYS want to talk weddings!!

I got engaged in May, and couldn't stop thinking about it for a few months. I got a lot done at that time, and then the holidays came closer. That helped get my mind off of it. I even told my bridal party to focus on themselves and their families, that we'll do more wedding planning after the holidays. Now I'm on full wedding mode again, getting married June, this year. I had the same issue again, but I started going to the gym and I watch a show on my phone when I'm there (also trying to lose weight for the wedding), but it keeps my mind off other things. Go on a date night with your FH. Don't talk about the wedding. And this may be cheating, but coming on here can help. I love coming on here and talking to other people about THEIR weddings.

I've been engaged since May, started planning in June, wedding is in August. All I do on my days off are wedding plan or go on wedding wire forums lol. With so much to do, how can you not think about it haha. I'm pretty sure it's normal though so just enjoy it while you can.

I'm following this for suggestions because I'm in the exact same boat. I feel like I can't shut my brain off and I'm getting stressed about what still has to get done and what needs to be paid for. And I feel like I'm on everyone's last nerve, lol.

Honestly, I think it may be unavoidable. There are so many little details and what not, my mind is constantly thinking about it as well. BUT I enjoy it!

Make spreadsheets and lists for everything!!! Seriously this has been the only thing that has started to let me get some sleep! I made a budget spreadsheet of things that were paid, estimated costs for things, actuals costs for things and what was left to be paid. Also made lists for ceremony and reception on all the THINGS that have to be remembered to be brought to each location. It helps to see it all out in writing.

Im starting to have this issue as well. But it took 8 months of being engaged to finally realize I guess i need to start planning it lol

It's so easy to be overwhelmed by it because wedding planning ends up encompassing a lot. Take breaks. Practice self care. Take some me time.

YES! I'm literally obsessed, addicted. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone lol.

This is totally me!! I think and plan our wedding every single day and I have 6 months left! I feel like I'm going crazy with all the little details that I have left to do. But honestly, it is so much fun and I know once the day is here I'm going to appreciate those moments of planning and staying up late. I just recommend staying organized and creating lists of things you have left to do. Good luck!

You're not alone. I find myself in the same boat. I'm just trying to make sure that the wedding isn't the only thing I talk about when talking to my fiance, mom, sisters, and friends. Sometimes, I do a good job, but other times . . . It's definitely hard not to let the wedding become all consuming.

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Kayla hit all the important points for sure. Lists, lists and more lists. SO helpful. Take it off your mind and put it in a document. Very very helpful.

Same! i lay awake at night calculating numbers... thinking of bouquets, or what song we will walk down the isle to. i tend to be an over thinker but i just can’t shut my wedding planning brain off😫